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How did you meet your partner (if you have one)?

Asparagus

I got together with an old friend on a night out, and it became serious very quickly (we were both in our 30s), now we’re married / kids etc 

before that, dating was very disappointing. I was either getting the ick from perfectly nice men and then unable to remain interested, or getting too intensely involved (now that we know I’m autistic, we know why!) and getting dumped in 3 months (but then having the exes contact me even after it was all over). It was always the wrong person, and I could never deal with the ambiguity and the game playing in early courtship 

I also could never tell if someone liked me and also tended not to like people if I knew they liked me  

For late diagnosed people - how did you get together with your partners? were the early days of dating difficult like it was for me eg emotional regulation, waiting for a text back etc 

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  • Weirdly, on Tinder, but I was petrified and if I didn’t have friends to encouraged me, I probably wouldn’t have bothered. We talked constantly for about a week and then met up on the moors in Devon at this little pub. I was really awkward but must’ve made a good impression because he messaged me when I returned home and things went from there. We will have been together 4 years next February and married the other year. I only had my autism assessment in the spring this year so it was a bit of a shock but he did already know about my ADHD as I was diagnosed previously and now on medication for it. Incidentally, I think he has inattentive ADHD (not assessed yet) so we are both well matched. Grin

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  • Weirdly, on Tinder, but I was petrified and if I didn’t have friends to encouraged me, I probably wouldn’t have bothered. We talked constantly for about a week and then met up on the moors in Devon at this little pub. I was really awkward but must’ve made a good impression because he messaged me when I returned home and things went from there. We will have been together 4 years next February and married the other year. I only had my autism assessment in the spring this year so it was a bit of a shock but he did already know about my ADHD as I was diagnosed previously and now on medication for it. Incidentally, I think he has inattentive ADHD (not assessed yet) so we are both well matched. Grin

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