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How did you meet your partner (if you have one)?

Asparagus

I got together with an old friend on a night out, and it became serious very quickly (we were both in our 30s), now we’re married / kids etc 

before that, dating was very disappointing. I was either getting the ick from perfectly nice men and then unable to remain interested, or getting too intensely involved (now that we know I’m autistic, we know why!) and getting dumped in 3 months (but then having the exes contact me even after it was all over). It was always the wrong person, and I could never deal with the ambiguity and the game playing in early courtship 

I also could never tell if someone liked me and also tended not to like people if I knew they liked me  

For late diagnosed people - how did you get together with your partners? were the early days of dating difficult like it was for me eg emotional regulation, waiting for a text back etc 

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  • I was a YTS apprentice at a Ford dealership, next door was a pub, I started using the pub as I realised alcohol made me seem more normal. One night, my now wife’s friend came over and said that her friend really fancied me. She also asked why I hadn’t noticed as the signals were clearly there.
    I now realise this is part of neurotypical social cues and unspoken hints. I still don’t really understand them. She was my first girlfriend and we have now been married for 34 years. I won’t pretend our life has been a fairytale, I’ve only been diagnosed for a month, miscommunication is still an ongoing process.

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  • I was a YTS apprentice at a Ford dealership, next door was a pub, I started using the pub as I realised alcohol made me seem more normal. One night, my now wife’s friend came over and said that her friend really fancied me. She also asked why I hadn’t noticed as the signals were clearly there.
    I now realise this is part of neurotypical social cues and unspoken hints. I still don’t really understand them. She was my first girlfriend and we have now been married for 34 years. I won’t pretend our life has been a fairytale, I’ve only been diagnosed for a month, miscommunication is still an ongoing process.

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