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Diagnosis aftermath

Super1Nova6

Hi all,

Im new here and really just looking for some advice/insight!!! 
I was recently diagnosed with both ADHD and Autism in quick succession, and I was hoping (naive, I know!!) that I would gain some clarity/ understanding or myself. However it has only served to confuse me!! I really wasn’t expecting the diagnosis; I mean I just thought I was different. 

And now …. I’m upset all the time, I can’t seem to wrap my head around it, but mostly I feel lost!! When I have told people I haven’t had the greatest response from the 2 people I told, so I stopped telling people!! My biggest hurdle is work, in my previous job I was part of a team and was able to hide in the chaos of the role, but now I work alone and although I struggled when I started the job, it has got progressively worse since my diagnosis, and I feel like I just cannot get a handle on it, don’t get me wrong work have been good and have tried to help and I have reasonable adjustments but all of a sudden I feel like I’m completely incapable and I know the quality of my work is suffering, I struggle to meet targets, I’m working later than ever, and my overall performance is at an all time low!! I feel like the harder I try the worse I get!!! I am rambling, I guess I just want to know if anyone can relate? It just feels so lonely and isolating :( 

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  • My last job I can really relate to your work woes. I have AuDHD as well, so I forget things and miss things a lot. I worked at a factory, and I was constantly forgetting to sticker tanks, put in the flyer, change the number for the batch, etc. Little things, but all of these little things added up to make me really frustrated with how inept I was at what I was doing. The job was easy and I was failing. It felt like it was only getting worse and worse.

    But then about a year into the job everything just automatically clicked. I don’t know why or how, but suddenly I went from being unreliable to being the most capable member of the team. I think it was a combination of needing to pick up some slack (a really good coworker left), support from my coworkers/bosses, and a strong desire to prove to myself that I’m not useless. My ADHD hyperfocus became an asset, as I was able to point out issues that others would miss.

    I’m in a job now that is a little easier on my AuDHD needs, but I still find it amazing how I was able to turn around a bleak situation into something I could be proud of.

    All that to say, give it time. It might take you a little longer than your coworkers for the work to really click with you, but once you get the hang of it you might find out that you’re better at it than you thought possible.

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  • My last job I can really relate to your work woes. I have AuDHD as well, so I forget things and miss things a lot. I worked at a factory, and I was constantly forgetting to sticker tanks, put in the flyer, change the number for the batch, etc. Little things, but all of these little things added up to make me really frustrated with how inept I was at what I was doing. The job was easy and I was failing. It felt like it was only getting worse and worse.

    But then about a year into the job everything just automatically clicked. I don’t know why or how, but suddenly I went from being unreliable to being the most capable member of the team. I think it was a combination of needing to pick up some slack (a really good coworker left), support from my coworkers/bosses, and a strong desire to prove to myself that I’m not useless. My ADHD hyperfocus became an asset, as I was able to point out issues that others would miss.

    I’m in a job now that is a little easier on my AuDHD needs, but I still find it amazing how I was able to turn around a bleak situation into something I could be proud of.

    All that to say, give it time. It might take you a little longer than your coworkers for the work to really click with you, but once you get the hang of it you might find out that you’re better at it than you thought possible.

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