Diagnosis aftermath

Hi all,

Im new here and really just looking for some advice/insight!!! 
I was recently diagnosed with both ADHD and Autism in quick succession, and I was hoping (naive, I know!!) that I would gain some clarity/ understanding or myself. However it has only served to confuse me!! I really wasn’t expecting the diagnosis; I mean I just thought I was different. 

And now …. I’m upset all the time, I can’t seem to wrap my head around it, but mostly I feel lost!! When I have told people I haven’t had the greatest response from the 2 people I told, so I stopped telling people!! My biggest hurdle is work, in my previous job I was part of a team and was able to hide in the chaos of the role, but now I work alone and although I struggled when I started the job, it has got progressively worse since my diagnosis, and I feel like I just cannot get a handle on it, don’t get me wrong work have been good and have tried to help and I have reasonable adjustments but all of a sudden I feel like I’m completely incapable and I know the quality of my work is suffering, I struggle to meet targets, I’m working later than ever, and my overall performance is at an all time low!! I feel like the harder I try the worse I get!!! I am rambling, I guess I just want to know if anyone can relate? It just feels so lonely and isolating :( 

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  • A diagnosis does not define who you are, you define who you are. It also does not change who you are, it should just give you some reasons for why you are the way you are. Everyone who is autistic or an ADHDer, or both, has been that way since birth.

    You are the same person before and after diagnosis. If you research autism and ADHD you can refine your work arounds, to make life easier for you in the neurotypical world. Knowledge is better than ignorance. Your diagnosis can be an advantage, if you allow it to be.

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  • A diagnosis does not define who you are, you define who you are. It also does not change who you are, it should just give you some reasons for why you are the way you are. Everyone who is autistic or an ADHDer, or both, has been that way since birth.

    You are the same person before and after diagnosis. If you research autism and ADHD you can refine your work arounds, to make life easier for you in the neurotypical world. Knowledge is better than ignorance. Your diagnosis can be an advantage, if you allow it to be.

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