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Diagnosis aftermath

Super1Nova6

Hi all,

Im new here and really just looking for some advice/insight!!! 
I was recently diagnosed with both ADHD and Autism in quick succession, and I was hoping (naive, I know!!) that I would gain some clarity/ understanding or myself. However it has only served to confuse me!! I really wasn’t expecting the diagnosis; I mean I just thought I was different. 

And now …. I’m upset all the time, I can’t seem to wrap my head around it, but mostly I feel lost!! When I have told people I haven’t had the greatest response from the 2 people I told, so I stopped telling people!! My biggest hurdle is work, in my previous job I was part of a team and was able to hide in the chaos of the role, but now I work alone and although I struggled when I started the job, it has got progressively worse since my diagnosis, and I feel like I just cannot get a handle on it, don’t get me wrong work have been good and have tried to help and I have reasonable adjustments but all of a sudden I feel like I’m completely incapable and I know the quality of my work is suffering, I struggle to meet targets, I’m working later than ever, and my overall performance is at an all time low!! I feel like the harder I try the worse I get!!! I am rambling, I guess I just want to know if anyone can relate? It just feels so lonely and isolating :( 

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  • My work is struggling, I am distracted. I am paying more attention to how I feel which is making me more emotional.

    I can cope with work if I have stability elsewhere. I think it will take a while get solid foundations again. I am making progress, so I think it will come. I am figuring out what I am sure of, what thoughts are real, and what things I might need to watch out for (mostly communication and thought pattern related).

    Some issues may be coming from mourning what might have been, it depends on what struggles you have had.

    I do need to get more focus, but I am not sure how to get there at the moment. But I have now critically observed the effect stress has on me. The interesting thing is my eye injections seem to be affecting me more, not less.

    I definitely feel less capable at the moment, but am going to try and pull myself together.

    I have told a few people, I found 3 have autistic children so were interested, 1 assumed I already knew which was a surprise, 1 would have guessed, 2 didn't believe it. My parents didn't think I was, which is part of the reason it has taken so long to realise.

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  • My work is struggling, I am distracted. I am paying more attention to how I feel which is making me more emotional.

    I can cope with work if I have stability elsewhere. I think it will take a while get solid foundations again. I am making progress, so I think it will come. I am figuring out what I am sure of, what thoughts are real, and what things I might need to watch out for (mostly communication and thought pattern related).

    Some issues may be coming from mourning what might have been, it depends on what struggles you have had.

    I do need to get more focus, but I am not sure how to get there at the moment. But I have now critically observed the effect stress has on me. The interesting thing is my eye injections seem to be affecting me more, not less.

    I definitely feel less capable at the moment, but am going to try and pull myself together.

    I have told a few people, I found 3 have autistic children so were interested, 1 assumed I already knew which was a surprise, 1 would have guessed, 2 didn't believe it. My parents didn't think I was, which is part of the reason it has taken so long to realise.

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