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Finding a new job - interview!

illustrated.lady

Hello,

I have been having a really tough time in my job recently, I requested reasonable adjustments due to feeling burnt out and exhausted much of the time but these were denied and I have ultimately come to the decision that I need a new job asap. 

I have an online interview later today and I'm so nervous, I hate online video chats, I find them really awkward and feel that I don't come across well. Whilst the job is not something I would be excited to do, it is a fully remote job and I wouldn't really have to deal with people and I feel like that is really what I need going forward.

This is also my first interview since being diagnosed as autistic and I am trying to gain more of an understanding of how it affects my work life. 

Any well wishes would be appreciated! 

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  • illustrated.lady said:
    I have an online interview later today and I'm so nervous, I hate online video chats, I find them really awkward

    The way I found to conquer this fear was to tackle it head on - go do them, sometimes mess them up and always look back to learn from them.

    I would sometimes ask for a friend or mentor to role play the bits I really struggled with until I could use my scripting and masking skills to fake it well enough to get past the interview, and once in the job I typically found my technical skills more than compensated for my poor social skills (I didn't know I was autistic at the time).

    illustrated.lady said:
    This is also my first interview since being diagnosed as autistic and I am trying to gain more of an understanding of how it affects my work life. 

    I would recommend starting with something easy to follow to learn about autism and identify which traits you have (you will have some traits all at varying degrees of intensity) and then dig into them a bit more so you can understand what they are.

    Once you know what collection of issues exist then you can look at how other people handle them - some can tackle them and control them, some find workarounds and others simply avoid them at all costs - there are many options you can consider to help.

    Once you have finished looking into this you may well be a bit overwhelmed by the information and things you can try, so at this point I would recommend working with a psychotherapist who has experience of autistic clients as they can help you make more sense of it all.

    It is quite possible that you have traumas from your earlier life that you have forgotten / hidden / downplayed that are still impacting you to this day and the therapist can help you understand these and take the sting out of their tail so you can develop healtier ways of dealing with the anxieties they connect with.

    It is a process - mine took around 15 sessions and I did a lot of my own research and homework between sessions to speed things up. It took around a year due to my availability but I have come out of it much more confident, way less anxious and knowing much more about how my autism shapes my life and how I can do almost anything with the right coping mechanisms.

    These are just my thoughts for your consideration - good luck with the interview.

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  • illustrated.lady said:
    I have an online interview later today and I'm so nervous, I hate online video chats, I find them really awkward

    The way I found to conquer this fear was to tackle it head on - go do them, sometimes mess them up and always look back to learn from them.

    I would sometimes ask for a friend or mentor to role play the bits I really struggled with until I could use my scripting and masking skills to fake it well enough to get past the interview, and once in the job I typically found my technical skills more than compensated for my poor social skills (I didn't know I was autistic at the time).

    illustrated.lady said:
    This is also my first interview since being diagnosed as autistic and I am trying to gain more of an understanding of how it affects my work life. 

    I would recommend starting with something easy to follow to learn about autism and identify which traits you have (you will have some traits all at varying degrees of intensity) and then dig into them a bit more so you can understand what they are.

    Once you know what collection of issues exist then you can look at how other people handle them - some can tackle them and control them, some find workarounds and others simply avoid them at all costs - there are many options you can consider to help.

    Once you have finished looking into this you may well be a bit overwhelmed by the information and things you can try, so at this point I would recommend working with a psychotherapist who has experience of autistic clients as they can help you make more sense of it all.

    It is quite possible that you have traumas from your earlier life that you have forgotten / hidden / downplayed that are still impacting you to this day and the therapist can help you understand these and take the sting out of their tail so you can develop healtier ways of dealing with the anxieties they connect with.

    It is a process - mine took around 15 sessions and I did a lot of my own research and homework between sessions to speed things up. It took around a year due to my availability but I have come out of it much more confident, way less anxious and knowing much more about how my autism shapes my life and how I can do almost anything with the right coping mechanisms.

    These are just my thoughts for your consideration - good luck with the interview.

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