Autism and other peoples expectations

It’s not until perhaps you engage with others who are willing to point out your blunted expressions or black and white thinking that you realise how the NT’s claim to accept you for who you are but only when it doesn’t effect them negatively in their own social and family group relationships or they don’t want to feel “embarrassed” because you haven’t gone to the family reunion. Why does everyone else get a get out of jail free card for a cold or a headache but those with autism are just expecting to “conform” because that’s what “normal” people do. Autistic individuals do want to be around others but when they choose, life’s hard enough already, NTs do not get it at all. 

Parents
  • We tend not to realise that others can tell we're autistic. Stuck in hell where your're either totally exhausted from 8 hours of masking, or if you choose not to, people think you're being rude because you're not holding eye contact or holding conversations as you're expected to. Solution is seek friends that like you for you. If you have to mask for your friends to like you, theyre not your friends. Bitter pill but needed

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  • We tend not to realise that others can tell we're autistic. Stuck in hell where your're either totally exhausted from 8 hours of masking, or if you choose not to, people think you're being rude because you're not holding eye contact or holding conversations as you're expected to. Solution is seek friends that like you for you. If you have to mask for your friends to like you, theyre not your friends. Bitter pill but needed

Children
  • I agree with you, it's just tough trying to find like-minded individuals when you live in a certain area in Ireland, actually it's not the area it's certain people, some members of my family have stopped talking to me and now I can't get to see my nieces and nephews because I'm an embarrassment to them for announcing that I was diagnosed with autism