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Do people still have value to you?

purelambdaphi

Non-instrumental social value, that is. I'm sure they still have moral value for you still.

And by "non-instrumental" I just mean something you value for the sake of it, as opposed to valuing it because it enables you to experience/achieve/etc. something else (like how money is usually seen as valuable to the extent that it can buy you things, be passed down to enrich your progeny, etc.).

I'm sure the ones out of you that are parents, or have SOs, will say yes. I'm more leaning towards no, myself. After I reached a certain age experiencing social dynamics for the sake of it has become almost "conceptually dubious" to me.

In fact, I suspect I only interact or post things online instrumentally -- with the goal of putting boredom at bay or something like that.

(And, yaeh, I'm anticipating that it is plausible that someone here has the view that "All social valuing is instrumental" or some such. You're still welcome to elaborate on your position, if that is the case for you.)

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  • purelambdaphi said:
    I'm sure the ones out of you that are parents, or have SOs, will say yes.

    ...that is not an experience mirrored in my own life.

    Whether, or not, I am a parent, or if I have a significant other, are (for me) not the determining factors in the likelihood of my finding that people still represent value to my life experience.

    I can find socialising solo, in unrelated circles, may provide me with more opportunities for ways to establish rapport with people who are new-to-me.

    In some aspects, I suspect this is because each setting affords me different styles / levels of presenting my authentic self - depending upon my energy level and ease within those varied settings and contexts.

    By that I mean; by operating within an array of different environments / groups simultaneously: I afford myself the range of opportunities / options against which to match up my energy at a given time - without quite the same sense "command performance" which may be assumed or attempted to be imposed by e.g. my household, or relatives, or colleagues.

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  • purelambdaphi said:
    I'm sure the ones out of you that are parents, or have SOs, will say yes.

    ...that is not an experience mirrored in my own life.

    Whether, or not, I am a parent, or if I have a significant other, are (for me) not the determining factors in the likelihood of my finding that people still represent value to my life experience.

    I can find socialising solo, in unrelated circles, may provide me with more opportunities for ways to establish rapport with people who are new-to-me.

    In some aspects, I suspect this is because each setting affords me different styles / levels of presenting my authentic self - depending upon my energy level and ease within those varied settings and contexts.

    By that I mean; by operating within an array of different environments / groups simultaneously: I afford myself the range of opportunities / options against which to match up my energy at a given time - without quite the same sense "command performance" which may be assumed or attempted to be imposed by e.g. my household, or relatives, or colleagues.

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