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Is There Any Hope Of Independence For Me?

purelambdaphi

I'm nearing 26 years of age, and I only have a high school diploma aside from some negligible course certifications.

I hate having to depend on my family, live with them, or just living in the country I'm at currently.

I've considered a career in many different fields (YT, CompSci, medicine), but I have no confidence I'd get a job in any. My mental health is such that I feel unable to put the effort into getting through school or significantly socially interacting anymore, in any case.

I can't see any plausible future for me other than rotting in my room while hiding away from the sensory and emotional nightmare that is outside of it, or discontinuing my existence myself if my interest in certain things I still think are worth my time sufficiently dwindle.

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  • There is hope, but you may need to go through some discomfort in order to achieve it. Изгнан nailed it with:

    Изгнан said:
    its just doing them in small stages, not just throwing yourself into things that are overwhelming too fast

    That’s key. Do things in small steps over time. Start with listing all the things you are interested in. Then think outside the box and consider how those interests could be applied to a job. I managed to find my job helping people with disabilities by realizing I have an interest in Autism, its history, and etc.

    Another big thing to consider is that even if you manage to gain greater independence, there is nothing wrong with continuing to need supports. I’d say I’m pretty independent, but I still heavily rely on family and other support people to help get me through tough issues.

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  • There is hope, but you may need to go through some discomfort in order to achieve it. Изгнан nailed it with:

    Изгнан said:
    its just doing them in small stages, not just throwing yourself into things that are overwhelming too fast

    That’s key. Do things in small steps over time. Start with listing all the things you are interested in. Then think outside the box and consider how those interests could be applied to a job. I managed to find my job helping people with disabilities by realizing I have an interest in Autism, its history, and etc.

    Another big thing to consider is that even if you manage to gain greater independence, there is nothing wrong with continuing to need supports. I’d say I’m pretty independent, but I still heavily rely on family and other support people to help get me through tough issues.

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  • in reply to profdanger

    For the sake of clarity: I have sufficiently introspected during this meantime such that I have a (exhaustive?) list of SI's (and even a working formal model for them, but it is a little half-baked).

    Roughly:

    My SI's:

    a) General Science
    b) Art
    c) Philosophy

    Anything that I become prolongedly interested in is a manifestation of one of these three; all other interests are non-principled and temporary.

    This is why I experimented in trying to get a career in both medicine and CompSci in the past. These appeal to interest a, and have the additional feature of being apparently in-demand.