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Late assessment - ADIR without an informant who knew me as a child

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Hi,  I've got my assessment through right to choose this week, aged 56.  It's going to be ADOS then ADIR but the only person around who knew me as a kid is my Mum who is nearly 80 and highly unreliable.  I'm taking my husband - but wondered if anyone has had a similar experience of ADIR and know how that's likely to work and whether there's any extra prep I should be doing?  (I've not really seen any discussion of ADIR, let alone for an late assessment like this)

I guess I'm just fretting a bit. The agency is fine with me bringing my husband who I've known for 18 years.  Thing is, we didn't meet until I was 37 and  he's not seen what I'm like without him - and with him I'm happier and less bothered with my social ineptitude than I was (he himself is ASD) - so I'm a wee bit worried that it will give a misleading view of how life, as a whole, has been for me. 

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  • I used my dad who is in 80s to be honest his memory wasn;t that great and he did an awful lot of working away from home, so my mum (who I'm thinking is possibly autistic - but not diagnosed) mainly brought my sister and I up, during the week.  Everything for my dad is "no problem".  The one good thing is my dad had kept most of my school reports mainly secondary school (early 1980s) - and they were very helpful.

    So understand where you are coming from - all the best too

  • in reply to Jalapeno

    My school reports say absolutely nothing about my social development, or other problems. Just grades in school subjects and that’s it. In my country it was unusual to write anything else especially if the only issue was that child was too shy and compliant. Bullies were never taken seriously. I’m wondering if these reports would help anything. My mom is deliberately withholding my medical records from my early childhood and also some of pictures i drew so I have no evidence and of course she does not support me in getting diagnosis, because I was too creative and intelligent, and autistic children are those, who only rock whole day and make certain sounds. Yes it’s true but not only. 

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Don't worry. They can account for this. I was shy.

    If you are smart you learn that you can fit in and avoid attention by getting good grades. I always had good grades, no one said anything. The reports just said I was ok, if a little reserved, and that I burnt the candle at both ends. I was only doing it to not disappoint other people, I didn't really care about praise, I didn't do anything for myself till 21/22.

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  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Don't worry. They can account for this. I was shy.

    If you are smart you learn that you can fit in and avoid attention by getting good grades. I always had good grades, no one said anything. The reports just said I was ok, if a little reserved, and that I burnt the candle at both ends. I was only doing it to not disappoint other people, I didn't really care about praise, I didn't do anything for myself till 21/22.

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  • in reply to Stuart333

    Very much same here. But my grades were pretty far from good. Only certain subjects and especially Russian I had the highest grades and certificate from national Olympic competition when I was 18. I was amazed to see, that I got quite good grades in PE although I was very clumsy but I was always present and trying my best.