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Who else was bullied in high school?

illustrated.lady

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Hello!

I'm fairly newly diagnosed woman at the grand age of 32. When I was diagnosed the psychiatrist said that years ago I wouldn't have been diagnosed with our understanding of the autistic spectrum has changed over time. 

I keep thinking back to my time in school, I went to a girls school, it had a bad reputation locally and it was awful.

I have always had dreams about being back in school but they have become almost nightly since my diagnosis.

Academically, I did well in school, I thoroughly enjoyed some subjects - English, RE, Health and Social Care, Graphics. Socially, not so much although by the final two years I had settled into a friendship group with fellow nerdy kids. 

I always felt like an outcast, other girls made fun of me for every little thing, my frizzy hair, my body, my 'posh' ways of speaking, my geekiness, my online presence (these were the early days of social media), my interests.

I tried so desperately to fit in, I would listen to music I didn't like feign interest in things I didn't like and changed my ways of speaking. I couldn't recognize when people were being mean to me - that fake nice thing that girls would do that I still would not be able to recognize today!

I feel like I'm grieving for what could have been, my experience of school could have been so different in my autism was recognised and catered for. In Year 9, so at 13/14 years old I went through an awful stage of anxiety and school avoidance, I just didn't want to be there, I was just so overwhelmed and sitting in a class felt like punishment. 

It was actually only during therapy a few years ago in my late twenties that I had the sudden realization that I was bullied, that my experience wasn't typical. It wasn't normal for people to steal your belongings, to be pinched, to have your skirt pulled up, to be threatened, to have everything you do analyzed and criticized. 

My understanding now is that my experience is very common amongst autistic people. I am on the waiting list for therapy with the NHS as this is something I really need to be able to move on from.

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  • I too was bullied frequently at school, mainly mocked and ridiculed though occasionally physical such as having my hair pulled and being spat on.

    I remember hating playtimes and PE lessons unless my couple of friends were around. Whenever I was alone during playtime I'd spend the time in the school library which was a lot quieter than the playground. Thankfully, I rarely needed to use the toilet as that was something else I hated doing. 

    One of the many examples is on an almost daily basis I'd have a couple or group of pupils (usually boys) walking past me and joking with each other (in reference of me) saying: "there's your girlfriend!" and laughing.

    I was introverted, had the most uncool bags and wore the most uncool clothes on non uniform days, had unruly hair no matter how many times I brushed it (and yes, I was told by other kids that I had messy hair and was asked if I brushed it this morning), and was submissive. So I was a great target for bullies.

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  • I too was bullied frequently at school, mainly mocked and ridiculed though occasionally physical such as having my hair pulled and being spat on.

    I remember hating playtimes and PE lessons unless my couple of friends were around. Whenever I was alone during playtime I'd spend the time in the school library which was a lot quieter than the playground. Thankfully, I rarely needed to use the toilet as that was something else I hated doing. 

    One of the many examples is on an almost daily basis I'd have a couple or group of pupils (usually boys) walking past me and joking with each other (in reference of me) saying: "there's your girlfriend!" and laughing.

    I was introverted, had the most uncool bags and wore the most uncool clothes on non uniform days, had unruly hair no matter how many times I brushed it (and yes, I was told by other kids that I had messy hair and was asked if I brushed it this morning), and was submissive. So I was a great target for bullies.

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