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Time passing and memories

Stuart333

Hello, I was wondering how others perceived the passing of time and whether you have a good memory of it all.

Probably applies more to older people but anyone can contribute.

I'm in my 50's and have quite a hazy memory of most of it.  While I am somehow aware time has passed, more seems to have passed than I really realised.

I was often very tired, i pushed myself too hard, I didn't sleep well and used alcohol to relax, not hugely but more than current guidelines (they did used to be higher).

I often had no energy or enthusiasm at the end of the work day and even at weekends I did not do much. I now wonder if I was close to burnout a lot of the time.

But NTs also say time goes faster as you get older, so I didn't know if this is all normal and I should have just have worked to live rather than lived to work. Which is the same  issue for everyone.

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  • I remember a lot of useless things from the past and often find myself recalling past experiences. However being an only child I now have no one left who remembers these things. Having said that I have a terrible memory for present things or facts or processes unless I am doing them regularly. 

    I did get tired in the past and was encouraged to do a lot of things, so I have had quite a few life experiences. It is only in recent years that I have realized the impact of trying to be like others and why it took a while to get energy back in the holidays, but I guess I thought it was the norm. I now need to do very little before I am exhausted and find it very obvious that I can do a lot less than my peers in their early sixties. I had a period of burnout last year and since then, getting back to my full hours at work was a challenge. I am having to book time off or finish earlier at the end of the week. Often my first day after working I have little energy and when I recently had to go to the office for training was unable to work the next day. It feels like a balancing act trying not to get back to burnout.

    The years do pass by quickly, but the years to my entitlement to state pension when I could afford to retire seem to drag. I often think about how when I started work I thought I would be retired now, until the age changed. I used to enjoy most of my work, but as things have changed and become more stressful I now work to live.

  • in reply to Homebird

    It's hard being an only child when there's no one to say 'remember when' with, my Mum's still alive but she's not got the best memory in the world, she's not got dementia or anything, she just dosen't have a good memory. I think it's why I've conciously held on to so many memories, to the point were I've felt like a snail, carrying my home on my back.

    Roll on pension day, I've got 4 years to go.

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  • in reply to Homebird

    It's hard being an only child when there's no one to say 'remember when' with, my Mum's still alive but she's not got the best memory in the world, she's not got dementia or anything, she just dosen't have a good memory. I think it's why I've conciously held on to so many memories, to the point were I've felt like a snail, carrying my home on my back.

    Roll on pension day, I've got 4 years to go.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    That's interesting. My Mum died many years before my Dad and my Dad only remembered limited things and not a lot included my childhood. I have quite a lot of photos though of family, including grandparents so every so often I get them out. I enjoyed watching the more recent episodes of Call the Midwife as it gave a picture of life when I was a child.