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Therapy

Expecto_Patronum

I'm not asking for medical advice, I'm just interested in experiences. I have recently started therapy again but I don't think it's going that well. We have agreed that CBT is not the right fit for me. So she is looking at other things that could help but so far none of it feels like it's the right thing. I feel like I'm just saying no to everything and it's wasting sessions but I don't know how to engage with something that just doesn't feel right.

So people, particularly if you have AuDHD, what therapies have you tried that are NOT CBT. Did they work? What did you find useful? What did you find wasn't useful? Did you really have to push yourself to get anywhere with it? 

I obviously want to do whatever I can to improve my anxiety and depression and have better coping skills but so far I just don't see anything I'm being offered as useful but I have no clue what would be useful.

Obviously I know that none of you can tell me what is useful. I'm just interested to hear other people's experiences so I can see if they are a) similar to mine and b) if there's anything other people have tried that I think sounds helpful and could suggest to my therapist. 

Thanks in advance.

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  • I think a lot of it comes from within. You talk to someone about what your issues are. You try to get to where that is coming from, what you are afraid or worried about. They provide some guidance and offer suggestions if you have some preconceived ideas, biases, cognitive distortions, or errors, which allows you to be a bit more clear on your thinking. 

    I don't think you go to them and say what shall we talk about. You need to know what you have a problem with and what sort of end result you want. You have to be completely open and honest, including with yourself which can be the hardest. You need to have no fear, shame,or embarrassment, which is what foolishly stopped me for 3 decades.

    My main issue was confusion, so someone to check my ideas against, once I had the courage to just tell them everything, was enough. I then spent 20-30 hours researching between sessions and thinking deeply to figure out what was up.

    I did kind of re-traumatise myself. But my obsessive mind revisiting things 3-4 times a day for months has gradually worn that down again.

    My main realisation is I might have screwed up my life and no therapy will act like a time machine and send me back 30 years which is what I really want. I may also be indulging in fantasies and have unrealistic ideas, I don't know. I will have a diagnosis in a few weeks, then I will know where I stand. Maybe I am just a  bit old-fashioned crazy.

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  • I think a lot of it comes from within. You talk to someone about what your issues are. You try to get to where that is coming from, what you are afraid or worried about. They provide some guidance and offer suggestions if you have some preconceived ideas, biases, cognitive distortions, or errors, which allows you to be a bit more clear on your thinking. 

    I don't think you go to them and say what shall we talk about. You need to know what you have a problem with and what sort of end result you want. You have to be completely open and honest, including with yourself which can be the hardest. You need to have no fear, shame,or embarrassment, which is what foolishly stopped me for 3 decades.

    My main issue was confusion, so someone to check my ideas against, once I had the courage to just tell them everything, was enough. I then spent 20-30 hours researching between sessions and thinking deeply to figure out what was up.

    I did kind of re-traumatise myself. But my obsessive mind revisiting things 3-4 times a day for months has gradually worn that down again.

    My main realisation is I might have screwed up my life and no therapy will act like a time machine and send me back 30 years which is what I really want. I may also be indulging in fantasies and have unrealistic ideas, I don't know. I will have a diagnosis in a few weeks, then I will know where I stand. Maybe I am just a  bit old-fashioned crazy.

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