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Programmer37

Hi

I am 39 years old and recently had mental breeakdown because I wasm't performing well in my IT job and my collegues were partiicularly helpful.

I was rrecently diagnosed with autism.  I was wondering is there help in the following

1) help find a suitable job for me

2)help in interviews . I dont know how I come across in interviews but I know for a fact communication isn't my forte.

I am also looking for some advise because I feel if I do get a job, it will probably be in IT because I did a test to find suitable job for me and it said IT. Also I only have experience in IT.

BUT I am very worried I will have another mental breakdown. I dont know if there is something that can be done to reduce the risk of this happening.

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  • Are you sure you had a breakdown because you weren't doing well? Is it not possible you weren't doing well because you were getting close to a breakdown? In other words you were overloaded, putting too much pressure on yourself, then suffered from burnout.

    In this case you need to avoid burnout.

    Presumably you managed to have a job up to 39, and were doing OK for most of it.
    This means you have the skills and knowledge.
    Your ex-colleagues were helpful, which means they had some sympathy and cared. They would not have done that if you were really no good.
    I would not get too self conscious about an interview, you should rely on your skills and experience, the same as everyone.

    It makes sense to stick to what you know as it gives the chance to get the highest salary. But if you don't need to the money, you might want to consider something with less pressure, or get an IT role with less pressure.

    I have realised a lot of the pressure is internally generated. My own expectations are higher than are needed and I don't take enough leave on a regular enough basis. Perhaps with some self-compassion and better leave management you would also be able to reduce stress.
    You may also need to actively try to relax and switch off each day, and to prioritise rest.
    These changes may mean you can better cope.

    Don't lose confidence because of one episode. 

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  • Are you sure you had a breakdown because you weren't doing well? Is it not possible you weren't doing well because you were getting close to a breakdown? In other words you were overloaded, putting too much pressure on yourself, then suffered from burnout.

    In this case you need to avoid burnout.

    Presumably you managed to have a job up to 39, and were doing OK for most of it.
    This means you have the skills and knowledge.
    Your ex-colleagues were helpful, which means they had some sympathy and cared. They would not have done that if you were really no good.
    I would not get too self conscious about an interview, you should rely on your skills and experience, the same as everyone.

    It makes sense to stick to what you know as it gives the chance to get the highest salary. But if you don't need to the money, you might want to consider something with less pressure, or get an IT role with less pressure.

    I have realised a lot of the pressure is internally generated. My own expectations are higher than are needed and I don't take enough leave on a regular enough basis. Perhaps with some self-compassion and better leave management you would also be able to reduce stress.
    You may also need to actively try to relax and switch off each day, and to prioritise rest.
    These changes may mean you can better cope.

    Don't lose confidence because of one episode. 

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