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Public Meltdown

Bert

Hi.

I wonder if anyone on here as ever had as an adult a meltdown in public. I unfortunately

had my first one on Sunday & it is an experience quite different than having one without

a public presence..I had it in front of a neighbour who was informed earlier in the week

that I was autistic,it was not as bad as some, ripped my top off attacked the ivy beat up

a wreath,all our property I ranted but no Tourette's.

Her first reaction was to make it all about her, calling her husband "come here come here 

I have a problem will you come down please" my mother who is end of life & who I care

for was sitting there said later " I was the one with the problem & me who could of used the

help" Anyway I came back down after replacing my t shirt had a rant & told the husband

to stay out of it as before his wife had been berating my mother & as I went to stop it

I had a panic attack so she threatened me with her husband.

I was told by friends not to worry & there is no need to apologise it was not intentional but I

send a text saying "sorry about that sensory overload caused a meltdown linked to my ASD

it was nothing personal" & the reason I is there will be repercussions as there were over the

panic attack nothing illegal last time it was trying to have  my safe space tree cut down & various

other actions.

Whilst there is no magic bullet how do you cope having them outside, any advice would be great.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

  

Parents

  • Hi! I’m still very young (graduating from German “Gymnasium” right now), but I am now old enough to be recognised as an adult by law and the majority of the population (strangers greet me with “Sie” instead of “Du”. That’s basically the measure for how old people think you are here xD).

    While I did have meltdowns in school, it was a very different experience to have one in public while being seen as a responsible adult (especially since I barely have them nowadays). Thankfully, it was a rather small one in a less crowded area, but I still kicked against a tree, pulled at my hair, cried in an ugly manner and threw dirt and rocks on the ground to release some of the energy. As soon as I calmed down enough to half care about my surroundings, I realised how passing strangers were looking at me, making a beeline to avoid my path. After one woman actually asked me if I needed help, I could barely manage to say “no”. Since then, I always bring a little note with me that explains what’s happening and what I need or don’t need. When I feel something coming, I take it out, just in case. It should keep people from panicking and doing dumb things like touching, screaming, getting mad, calling an ambulance for no reason etc.

    But you probably already thought of that. Sorry, that I couldn’t help more.

  • in reply to Emmalephant

    Thank you for your reply & advice.

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