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Ems

I’m so frustrated. I keep having days where one thing goes wrong and it messes up my whole day and makes me feel like the end of the world and everything goes wrong. It makes me want to cry and I feel so irritated and I can feel everything - I can feel my clothes too much and everything is irritating. I hate it so much. Especially as it’s little things that go wrong first which a neurotypical person would be able to ignore or get past, but I always feel so stuck and focused on it. These days always make everything worse as it continues to disrupt my routine and messes up my day. I just feel like I’m in a constant spiral and on the verge of a meltdown. Over one thing going wrong.

  • in reply to Ems

    Yes, the duality of it is off-putting, but now that it’s over I just try to focus on feeling proud of myself for doing it anyway. 

  • in reply to Emmalephant

    It is nice to know I’m not alone in this. But I’m also sorry you’re struggling similarly. I share your experiences with crying at the gym! I have cried in the toilets quite a few times from disruptions to my routine and overstimulation. It’s hard because it’s the only time I get out of the house is to go to the gym and it’s good for my mental health. But it’s also really hard all the time 

  • Hi!

    I don’t know if that helps at all… Today my note-taking-App forced me to try out the new version. Everything looked different and I didn’t like it. I wasn’t able to study anymore for the entire rest of the day (I have an important oral exam coming up) and an hour ago I started crying in the gym because somebody touched me slightly (thankfully nobody saw me and it was at the end of my session). 

    There are days like this. And they will keep coming, but eventually they’ll be over. Throw on your favourite show, pull out your favourite book or whatever provides comfort for yourself. It’s easy to feel useless, ashamed and guilty, I get it. But the worst of it will pass, it always does.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    I know that it is something that a lot of us struggle with - I wish there was a straight answer! Thank you for these suggestions I will try to distract myself next time

  • I don't really have a good answer.
    I think you need to somehow fool your brain so it let's go for a while.

    I normally do something like:
    - tell myself it doesn't matter, even though it does, to say it somehow reduces the impact although it is not very effective and has to be done a few times to try to push the thoughts out,
    - tell myself I will worry/think about it later/this evening, so I can get on with what's next,
    - distract myself somehow, have something or do something I like instead, eat a cake or make some tea so my focus shifts.