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Newly diagnosed at 34

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Hi all , I’m newly diagnosed at 34, and imagine like a lot of people it just makes sense. What I’m struggling with is what support is available , how do I start to make sense of becoming the real me . How do I get my wife to accept that and my needs 

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  • Support for adults depends on your needs and what you want - it could be an autism support group, if there is one in your area, or if you're employed it could be reasonable adjustments by your employer.

    I would suggest looking at information on autistic masking to help you work out the real you, then decide what masking you want to discard and what is useful to help you cope when meeting others. This website has a section on masking which you may find helpful: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/masking

    You need to talk to your wife about how you feel and how being autistic affects you and your behaviour. Explain what your needs are and ask her for her support. Share things you learn about autism & masking so that she learns about it too. And remember that it's going to take her time to process this information. Communication and compromise are the keys to a good relationship. 

    I wish you both well and hope that you find this forum useful.

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  • Support for adults depends on your needs and what you want - it could be an autism support group, if there is one in your area, or if you're employed it could be reasonable adjustments by your employer.

    I would suggest looking at information on autistic masking to help you work out the real you, then decide what masking you want to discard and what is useful to help you cope when meeting others. This website has a section on masking which you may find helpful: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/masking

    You need to talk to your wife about how you feel and how being autistic affects you and your behaviour. Explain what your needs are and ask her for her support. Share things you learn about autism & masking so that she learns about it too. And remember that it's going to take her time to process this information. Communication and compromise are the keys to a good relationship. 

    I wish you both well and hope that you find this forum useful.

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