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Recently diagnosed - struggling

illustrated.lady

Hello!

I'm new here, I was diagnosed with 'high functioning autism' about 5 weeks ago, I just got my diagnostic report on Sunday.

I'm a 32 year old woman and never felt like I fit in, like I didn't connect with people and being around people drained me, sure, I can mask and say the right things and smile but it's all an act. I've always had issues in jobs and have had attendance issues and sick leave for stress in every job I've had. I've been on anti-depressants for ten years.

The diagnosis makes so much sense and I hope it will eventually allow me to be easier on myself and not so harsh on myself for struggling with things. I do feel like I'm struggling to come to terms with the diagnosis, it's a relief in some ways that there's a reason for my behaviors but it's also like....I don't know how to manage. I don't know how to get out of this cycle of stress and overwhelm and as I'm sure we're all aware, there's no support for autistic adults.

If you've read all of this then I sincerely thank you. I feel quite alone. 

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  • Hi,

    I know it's a struggle, but that does get easier.

    Myself, I'm undiagnosed and in my 50s. The seed was panted when my son was diagnosed. Some of the traits were uncannily similar. 

    So, I've not had an assessment (I've joined the queue), but I'm just doing a very autistic thing. I deep dive into it, get some idea of how autism feels compared to how the so-called "normal" world operates.

    The way i see it is you are "officially" autistic: a good feeling. But now, you're wondering what's next? You need strategies for coping. You got to kind of learn more about the condition in order to compare and contrast it with the neurotypical world. That way, strategies can be learned to help cope better.

    All this you are expected to do on your own. There is a rising amount of people awaiting diagnosis, which shows the rising awareness of the condition. That's got to be a good thing. There is little by way of help from a governmental or charitable viewpoint, especially autistic adults. You have to seek it out or DIY, learn all you can about it. More awareness breeds more new things being learned.

    I'm in the waiting area (I'm thinking Beetlejuice). You've gone through the door like Stars In Their Eyes! "Tonight Matthew, I will be Autistic!" Let the unmasking begin!

    Self-education is crucial really, because you can slot the rest of the metaphorical puzzle pieces into place. Feel proud about yourself. Not to be proud of autism, but proud you made it through the hard bit. Many don't make it, due to suicides and drugs. So, be proud of getting through the long walk in the dark. There's a clearing ahead...

    I'm sorry. I got caught up in "self help guru" mode Rofl

    Yeah... just get learning more about the condition, about you. Its a voyage pf discovery (it says in the brochure). And welcome to the forum! Where better to start your journey than here?

    WinkThumbsupHeart️

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  • Hi,

    I know it's a struggle, but that does get easier.

    Myself, I'm undiagnosed and in my 50s. The seed was panted when my son was diagnosed. Some of the traits were uncannily similar. 

    So, I've not had an assessment (I've joined the queue), but I'm just doing a very autistic thing. I deep dive into it, get some idea of how autism feels compared to how the so-called "normal" world operates.

    The way i see it is you are "officially" autistic: a good feeling. But now, you're wondering what's next? You need strategies for coping. You got to kind of learn more about the condition in order to compare and contrast it with the neurotypical world. That way, strategies can be learned to help cope better.

    All this you are expected to do on your own. There is a rising amount of people awaiting diagnosis, which shows the rising awareness of the condition. That's got to be a good thing. There is little by way of help from a governmental or charitable viewpoint, especially autistic adults. You have to seek it out or DIY, learn all you can about it. More awareness breeds more new things being learned.

    I'm in the waiting area (I'm thinking Beetlejuice). You've gone through the door like Stars In Their Eyes! "Tonight Matthew, I will be Autistic!" Let the unmasking begin!

    Self-education is crucial really, because you can slot the rest of the metaphorical puzzle pieces into place. Feel proud about yourself. Not to be proud of autism, but proud you made it through the hard bit. Many don't make it, due to suicides and drugs. So, be proud of getting through the long walk in the dark. There's a clearing ahead...

    I'm sorry. I got caught up in "self help guru" mode Rofl

    Yeah... just get learning more about the condition, about you. Its a voyage pf discovery (it says in the brochure). And welcome to the forum! Where better to start your journey than here?

    WinkThumbsupHeart️

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