Perpetual Double empathy problem

I feel like I'm sometimes being gaslighted by GPs when I tell them of my ideations of self harm and suicide and my body going into overdrive and they make some remarks or use a condescending tone of voice or use examples that are supposed to be inspirational but are insulting.  They are pretty much neurotypicals themselves and there is when I understood the double empathy problem.  Same with CBT therapists using the generic CBT about thinking positively and self love, etc.  Again the double empathy problem, the inability to put themselves in my shoes.

All of these approaches were never created with the idiosyncratic, uniquely traumatised autistic and neuro divergent psyche in mind, which is so frustrating and a waste of time and money when it exacerbates one's anguish.