Working threatening to fire unless I go in

Are they expecting you in 5 days a week ? have they said what attendance they would want from you (say ignoring for the moment any adjustments you do need)?  .  Does seem they maybe on a targeted mission - so yes do document any conversations (as others have said) ? perhaps email notes to your personal email address of what was said, so at least you have a record should you need it.  Have you seen evidence that other colleague have already been made to RTO or are also being approached right now ?

Good luck too.  I know in the past I have just walked out rather than fight my corner having experience some bad managers in toxic workplaces - maybe now, with my diagnosis, I perhaps seek a better outcome

They are saying they want to start slowly phasing me in to 3 days a week like everybody else, starting with an in person chat with a manager to discuss it, however they have said people will be working 4 days a week soon and have been upping the days since people were allowed back in the office so by the end of this year I expect either 5 days a week or at least an announcement that its coming.

Sadly nobody else seems willing to risk complaining about anything, and there doesn't seem to be anybody else with disabilities in my immediate team, which I feel is also part of why they are targeting me for this, as this year they made 4.3 billion in profits with the CEO being paid nearly 17 million but almost nobody below a manager level got a pay rise at all, and my complaints about this were met with "we pay a good rate compared to other banks, this isn't an issue". 

Sadly I think I just learnt to late why nobody else complains about being treated like cattle, its because they will find a way to force you out, I'm just hoping that the method they chose for me bites them in the bum as they have no excuses relating to my work as I'm not trained to work on 3 teams (most people aren't even trained for 2), and have always been a higher performer, made many suggestions on improvements and written training guides for people, so this is the only option they have.

NAS64138 said:

Sadly I think I just learnt to late why nobody else complains about being treated like cattle, its because they will find a way to force you out

The jobs market is beginning to get really bad so staff will be very wary of doing something that will put their role at risk so employers are pushing staff back into the office knowing that the ones that complain are likely to be the troublesome ones and they will be better off without them.

This means you will be setting a bad example in the eyes of management if you get to laze about at home all day while your colleagues thrive under the benevolent oversight of management (in their eyes).

This is happening in most companies now and if you involke a legal challenge under the equality act then management will feel vindicated in considering you a troublemaker and will simply make your work life so miserable that you will leave - all perfectly legal in the way they can do it.

If I were in your shoes I would keep careful records of any interactions on the return to office conversation and find a good employment litigation lawyer to have on speed dial. Keep copies of everything outside the company environments in case they cut off your access.

Expect the worst but work to improve your ability to work in the office. Were you doing it pre-pandemic? If so what has changed to make you unable to do it now.

I would also get a psychotherapist with experience of helping autists and work on reducting your stress and any phobias that may be causing you to fear returning to the office.

In the end I expect you will have to go to the office 5 days a week so starting with this as the expected future you can begin preparing for it so you are seeing it as fact and just work through the steps to get there. Sometimes losing the battle to keep your current position can be more damaging mentally when you are counting on it as your future.

This may seem a bit defeatist but I have worked with management teams when dealing with troublesome employees and have seen the thought processes and the way HR are used to achieve their ends.

In your shoes I would also be job hunting - if nothing else it may help you realise if you really need to keep this job, whatever the price.

NAS64138 said:

Sadly I think I just learnt to late why nobody else complains about being treated like cattle, its because they will find a way to force you out

The jobs market is beginning to get really bad so staff will be very wary of doing something that will put their role at risk so employers are pushing staff back into the office knowing that the ones that complain are likely to be the troublesome ones and they will be better off without them.

This means you will be setting a bad example in the eyes of management if you get to laze about at home all day while your colleagues thrive under the benevolent oversight of management (in their eyes).

This is happening in most companies now and if you involke a legal challenge under the equality act then management will feel vindicated in considering you a troublemaker and will simply make your work life so miserable that you will leave - all perfectly legal in the way they can do it.

If I were in your shoes I would keep careful records of any interactions on the return to office conversation and find a good employment litigation lawyer to have on speed dial. Keep copies of everything outside the company environments in case they cut off your access.

Expect the worst but work to improve your ability to work in the office. Were you doing it pre-pandemic? If so what has changed to make you unable to do it now.

I would also get a psychotherapist with experience of helping autists and work on reducting your stress and any phobias that may be causing you to fear returning to the office.

In the end I expect you will have to go to the office 5 days a week so starting with this as the expected future you can begin preparing for it so you are seeing it as fact and just work through the steps to get there. Sometimes losing the battle to keep your current position can be more damaging mentally when you are counting on it as your future.

This may seem a bit defeatist but I have worked with management teams when dealing with troublesome employees and have seen the thought processes and the way HR are used to achieve their ends.

In your shoes I would also be job hunting - if nothing else it may help you realise if you really need to keep this job, whatever the price.