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What is something you've realised in hindsight were probably caused by Autism?

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What is something you've realised in hindsight were probably caused by Autism? Preferably light hearted, but share anything you like. Feel free to share multiple.

For background, I'm awaiting assessment for Autism. Even though I've already filled in the initial assessment form, there are many things that will pop into my head as probably being the result of Autism (if confirmed).

As an example, at work I would sometimes have to go to client sites. This particular client was a more traditional business so it was smart trousers, shirt and shoes, rather than the usual jeans, polo shirt and converse. I think I was senior on the work as well so I was doing a lot of the talking and centre of attention. When I finally returned to our office, I let out a big sigh, laid down on the floor, and closed my eyes. One of the managers asked if I was ok, and I said yes I just needed to chill. I was quite content there on the floor for about 10 seconds, before anxiety kicked in about how it might look and I got back up.

I find it quite amusing in hindsight. To end up laying down on the floor in the middle of an office, it seems obvious it was probably more than just a long day Joy

  • My total inability to initiate a romantic relationship with the opposite sex, though university and into my mid twenties. I was entirely unable to recognise if anyone was attracted to me, this paralysed my ability to initiate anything, for fear of being inappropriate and of being rejected. In hindsight, I recognised instances where I had been given the green light, but was entirely 'colourblind' at the time.

  • in reply to White_Dragon

    Wow, that's awful. I'm really sorry that you were made redundant but pleased that you no longer had to work with that awful human.

  • Interesting question. Quite a few things come one of my main issues of getting into trouble especially at work was telling the truth and not being very savvy. In one incident I together with a few of my colleagues were having to endure a meeting with the big boss who was an absolute bully and hideous man. Trying to be polite. This meeting was going on forever and I was getting anxious that I was going to miss my dentist appointment. I cannot be late or miss something so I waited until the last moment and said something like I am going to have to go as I have a dentist appointment and this meeting has gone on longer than expected. Then I just got up and left. Next day I discovered my error and not long after I was made redundant. 

  • I think my disasterous relationship history could be down to autism, I've always been told I'm too weird and embarrassing

  • Definitely the meltdowns, In th and Nd I started to bottle them and hide them, as I'd had some bad experiences as a result.

    As you say, at the time it felt normal, but seeing other people shock at my "over reaction" eventually made me realise they weren't, so I managed to hide them mostly, "swallowing the grenade " as I like to call it.

    Otherwise it's similar stuff, reactions to situations and events that were completely out of synch with everyone else's. 

    Also physical stuff like always having a rough stomach every morning and random allergies that could vary day to day.

  • So many meltdowns in my previous job. SO many! I didn't know they were meltdowns back then, and neither did my employer, so I was labelled as all sorts of other things. All due to misinformation, bullying, gaslighting. unclear instructions, bad management and incompetence. I'll never work in a majority male environment again because of this. I just don't get the culture, I don't like the casual sexism, racism, and homophobia, and especially in the trades they have little understanding of mental health or neurodiversity. Zero accommodation. Jus' gerron wit' job! (I live n the north)