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What is something you've realised in hindsight were probably caused by Autism?

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What is something you've realised in hindsight were probably caused by Autism? Preferably light hearted, but share anything you like. Feel free to share multiple.

For background, I'm awaiting assessment for Autism. Even though I've already filled in the initial assessment form, there are many things that will pop into my head as probably being the result of Autism (if confirmed).

As an example, at work I would sometimes have to go to client sites. This particular client was a more traditional business so it was smart trousers, shirt and shoes, rather than the usual jeans, polo shirt and converse. I think I was senior on the work as well so I was doing a lot of the talking and centre of attention. When I finally returned to our office, I let out a big sigh, laid down on the floor, and closed my eyes. One of the managers asked if I was ok, and I said yes I just needed to chill. I was quite content there on the floor for about 10 seconds, before anxiety kicked in about how it might look and I got back up.

I find it quite amusing in hindsight. To end up laying down on the floor in the middle of an office, it seems obvious it was probably more than just a long day Joy

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  • My inability at holding a conversation both as a child/teen and now the same if not worse as an adult. I just can't do, no matter how hard I try.

    "How are you Vi?"

    Me: "Fine." End of conversation lmao Joy

    And never finishing films or books in one sitting. I have such a short attention span and my mum always said I was the only child who didn't get absorbed in films when I watched them. I would sit there for 5 then go off and do something else.

    Looking back autism is responsible for so much.

  • in reply to Autistocrat

    Lol I'm also terrible with returning 'how are you? I give my 'all good' response then after my brain cogs have turned I'm like, oh yeah I need to ask them. Sweat smile

    Also yes!! I feel like I didn't watch a full film until I got into my late 20s. I might have been in the room/sat there but my mind was elsewhere, or I was doing other things. Then again I also have an ADHD diagnosis.

  • in reply to Ornithaur

    Lmao me too! My brain catches up after and I think “Oh yeah I should have asked how they were too!”. My mind is focusing on so much all at the same time and when someone asks how I am it’s like everything freezes up and I can only communicate with one words.

    I know I’ve goofed because I see that look of confusion on the person’s face and then they usually say something like “Oh ok, good. Well we’ll chat soon.”

    And then my brain is like “Soon? When? Today, tomorrow, next week?” And that’s my thought process for the next couple of hours – unsure why people can’t say exactly what they mean.

    Oh snap with ADHD!
    I have both and I think it’s more ADHD why I struggle with watching stuff and focusing solely on the film. There is always lots to think about and do, and it makes focusing on films extremely challenging. By the end of the film I have no idea what just happened and don’t remember more than 2 character names lol.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    I know what you mean with the playing on your mind. It can keep me awake sometimes and it's hard not being able to catch up with people and apologise. I'm glad you were able to catch up with one of the people you spoke to, that must have been a big comfort for you. I normally fail to do so, partially because I genuinely don't see them again for a long time, or it's where I'm too embarrassed to say about it.

    I wish there was a manual for interacting with people!!

  • in reply to Ornithaur
    Ornithaur said:
    Did you ever have any sensory issues with going to see films in cinema? The sounds made me feel like I was spinning upside down.. awful lol

    I can't do cinemas. The noise is unbearable, I'm in sensory overload before the film has even started. Get the noise of the people and then film itself and even with my headphones it's still too loud. The brightness of the screen is overwhelming too.

    I just can't sit through that. It isn't worth the overload and anxiety I experience.

    Home cinema all the way! Slight smile

  • in reply to Autistocrat

    I did this with 2 people the other day who asked how I was and I told them, but I was rushing between clients so I didn't ask how they were, and I felt so bad after. I've managed to catch up with one of them and apologise and ask how she was, but I've not had chance with the other yet. The woman I apologised to said she didn't even notice, but at least I managed to clear my head. NTs really don't seem to think about these things much at all. Social rules are so confusing.

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  • in reply to Autistocrat

    I did this with 2 people the other day who asked how I was and I told them, but I was rushing between clients so I didn't ask how they were, and I felt so bad after. I've managed to catch up with one of them and apologise and ask how she was, but I've not had chance with the other yet. The woman I apologised to said she didn't even notice, but at least I managed to clear my head. NTs really don't seem to think about these things much at all. Social rules are so confusing.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    I know what you mean with the playing on your mind. It can keep me awake sometimes and it's hard not being able to catch up with people and apologise. I'm glad you were able to catch up with one of the people you spoke to, that must have been a big comfort for you. I normally fail to do so, partially because I genuinely don't see them again for a long time, or it's where I'm too embarrassed to say about it.

    I wish there was a manual for interacting with people!!