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What is something you've realised in hindsight were probably caused by Autism?

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What is something you've realised in hindsight were probably caused by Autism? Preferably light hearted, but share anything you like. Feel free to share multiple.

For background, I'm awaiting assessment for Autism. Even though I've already filled in the initial assessment form, there are many things that will pop into my head as probably being the result of Autism (if confirmed).

As an example, at work I would sometimes have to go to client sites. This particular client was a more traditional business so it was smart trousers, shirt and shoes, rather than the usual jeans, polo shirt and converse. I think I was senior on the work as well so I was doing a lot of the talking and centre of attention. When I finally returned to our office, I let out a big sigh, laid down on the floor, and closed my eyes. One of the managers asked if I was ok, and I said yes I just needed to chill. I was quite content there on the floor for about 10 seconds, before anxiety kicked in about how it might look and I got back up.

I find it quite amusing in hindsight. To end up laying down on the floor in the middle of an office, it seems obvious it was probably more than just a long day Joy

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  • Interesting question. Quite a few things come one of my main issues of getting into trouble especially at work was telling the truth and not being very savvy. In one incident I together with a few of my colleagues were having to endure a meeting with the big boss who was an absolute bully and hideous man. Trying to be polite. This meeting was going on forever and I was getting anxious that I was going to miss my dentist appointment. I cannot be late or miss something so I waited until the last moment and said something like I am going to have to go as I have a dentist appointment and this meeting has gone on longer than expected. Then I just got up and left. Next day I discovered my error and not long after I was made redundant. 

  • in reply to White_Dragon
    White_Dragon said:
    Next day I discovered my error

    Seems legit to me. I guess the "error" was stating publicly that the meeting had gone on longer than expected, but still seems like the bigger issue is it actually overrunning. Sounds like what you had done was state a fact.

    I've been in meetings that have overrun and it annoys me so much. In my mind people have a "respect meter" of how much respect I have for them. If they're constantly organising meetings that overrun or causing meetings to overrun, it's almost guaranteed to reduce their meter, and even more so if they don't apologise for it. It just seems like basic common courtesy. If they're willing to use your time with no consideration to other things you might have to do, doesn't seem they have respect for you either.

    Time is precious.

  • in reply to D

    I agree but my colleagues and various bosses did not. I never really learned when to keep my mouth shut and just keep my head down. I struggle to let a perceived injustice go by!

  • in reply to White_Dragon

    I've just left a job I was in for a long time. In the words of a good colleague "you could be a PITA, but in a good way". Essentially I fixated on the company values and ensured we kept to them.

    Unfortunately it got to the point that, as you said, the company didn't like that I was sticking up for what I thought was right in terms of employee protections, code of conduct, etc.

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  • in reply to White_Dragon

    I've just left a job I was in for a long time. In the words of a good colleague "you could be a PITA, but in a good way". Essentially I fixated on the company values and ensured we kept to them.

    Unfortunately it got to the point that, as you said, the company didn't like that I was sticking up for what I thought was right in terms of employee protections, code of conduct, etc.

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