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Protecting siblings and myself

Jem

Hi all,

I'm just wondering if anyone has any suggestions. I am a single parent to a 9-year-old (nearly 10) autistic son and his 5-year-old sister. Today he was very dysregulated. He has a calm down area with toys/blankets e.t.c. but wouldn't go there and I could tell his sister was going to get hurt. I tried to get her out of the room but couldn't in time so put myself in between wne he bit me hard and it bruised instantly. As he is getting bigger, I am genuinely worried he is going to hurt one of us during his meltdowns. I've been to the doctor's, school and I'm on the waiting list for private therapy, but not got a place yet and no-one seems willing to help. The other day he said he wanted to stab me. Any advice at all?

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  • Hi Jem

    This sounds really tough to deal with. Unfortunately I don't have any experience with this personally. My partner has an autistic 12 yr old and he can get very cruel when he's in meltdown. He occasionally attacks his younger brother and at this point he has to be restrained, but for the most part his mother tries not to engage because it just exacerbates the situation and he digs his heels in further. Does he show any remorse for his actions when he's come out of the meltdown? Her son always does, but there's no getting through to him when he's in it.

    It's difficult to know what to do for the best in these situations and I really hope someone else has some good advice on who to talk to and how to handle it. I just didn't want you to feel you weren't being seen or heard. I hope advice comes soon. 

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Thank you and yes, he is remorseful afterwards and of course, would be very upset if he actually did anything serious, but by then it would be too late. Thank you for responding. 

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