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Reinvention

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Has anybody ever felt like they needed to reinvent themselves?

I don't know if it is a reinvention or if it is just a feeling of the need to shed the part of me that has been a negative representation of me.

For example, for me, I have never liked my name. It isn't that I don't just like it, I don't feel like it is a reflection of me as a person. I look at my name and I kind of don't recognise it as me, it's just a name. I've thought about changing it to something that I can relate to, that represents me, and has real meaning. It is something I have thought about for years and years but I am worried that people won't understand.

I don't know if it is the need to change and be the true me after years of hiding or blending in as someone else or if is due to me being in a truly terrible place mentally and it's my way of changing something in my life, even a form of escaping in some way. Thoughts?

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  • Hi,

    I can relate to this. Your identity is important and if you’re not feeling comfortable with yourself then that will put a downer on how you see yourself.

    Undoubtedly some people will judge, but, their opinions don’t matter. All that matters is doing what makes you happy, so if you want to do a new name or dress differently then you should and see how it makes you feel.

    A couple of years ago I wanted to reinvent myself, change my image and be more true to myself… So I started dressing in more vintage styles of clothing – tweed jackets, trilby hats, ties and really smart looking brown shoes – I get a lot of strange looks when I’m out, not as many now as people are used to seeing me like that but I felt happier overall because I was being true to myself, rather than dressing ‘normally’ to please those around me.

    This style of clothing has always looked smart to me, and it reminds me of my late granddad who dressed similarly. I feel closer to him now I dress like this too.

    At the end of the day it’s YOUR life and you are free to make changes whether people like it or not. If you don’t do what you want because of fear of others then you will be unhappy.

    I can’t say it will be better for your mental health, it was for me personally but that is my own experience.

    But definitely be true to yourself and you will be much happier overall.

    Good luck.

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  • Hi,

    I can relate to this. Your identity is important and if you’re not feeling comfortable with yourself then that will put a downer on how you see yourself.

    Undoubtedly some people will judge, but, their opinions don’t matter. All that matters is doing what makes you happy, so if you want to do a new name or dress differently then you should and see how it makes you feel.

    A couple of years ago I wanted to reinvent myself, change my image and be more true to myself… So I started dressing in more vintage styles of clothing – tweed jackets, trilby hats, ties and really smart looking brown shoes – I get a lot of strange looks when I’m out, not as many now as people are used to seeing me like that but I felt happier overall because I was being true to myself, rather than dressing ‘normally’ to please those around me.

    This style of clothing has always looked smart to me, and it reminds me of my late granddad who dressed similarly. I feel closer to him now I dress like this too.

    At the end of the day it’s YOUR life and you are free to make changes whether people like it or not. If you don’t do what you want because of fear of others then you will be unhappy.

    I can’t say it will be better for your mental health, it was for me personally but that is my own experience.

    But definitely be true to yourself and you will be much happier overall.

    Good luck.

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