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Should I hand in my notice?

Hope

I am after some advice. I have a part time job which involves a lot of social activities and organisation. I have been in the job on supported employment for almost three years. The first two years were productive, I felt I was doing the job well, and I got some positive feedback. But lately my supervisor has told me that things are not going well with the job, that she has received some negative feedback from clients about my lack of organisation - emails not being followed through, things being forgotten about, inability to deal with group dynamics. My work, in fact, helps other people with disabilities, but it is a very social role, the job expectations often change, and there is little structure.

For the last 6 months I have been feeling very demoralised with my job, and feeling as though I do not enjoy the work anymore. After today's supervision, where the supervisor said I have 3 months to improve or I may lose my job, I am considering handing in my notice. I would rather make the decision to leave the job myself instead of it being made for me. I don't know if I can turn things around in 3 months, and do not want to create any extra stress for myself. I would like to look for other jobs that better reflect my abilities. I have been told that I am forgetful and scatty and that this is putting my job at risk. Well, I cannot help being this way, and they do know I have Asperger's. Also, two of our clients irritate me because they complain about what I do all the time, and they are the ones who have put my job at risk through their complaints. I therefore harbour a degree of resentment towards them, which is not healthy, but I have to repress this resentment at work.

How can I hand in my notice? Do you think this is a good idea? I don't need to have secured another job in the meantime because I am financially secure.

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  • Beware constructive dismissal - my perception of what I've read is they are trying to destabalise your position in the hope you hand in your notice.

    Are they aware of your autistic spectrum status (not just nominally, but what it involves)? If they took you on knowing this they cannot fairly come back on the deal complaining that ASD related difficultries were an issue. Socialising, group dynamics and organisation difficulties are factors they ought to expect.

    But if there are pressures towards team cut backs in the current economic situation, they may well be rumbling to make excuses.

    I experienced a lot of this right through my career, never amounted to enough to end the job, and usually because when it came to it there was only hearsay evidence and quibbles.

    But with being on the spectrum, group dynamics is going to be tricky. And socialising lets face it is bound to be hard work.

    Certain things you may be expected to try - you might be able to improve on being scatty and forgetful by using more organisational aids - diary, calendar, organiser facilities on your computer that give you prompts.

    Also mistrust and resentment will show, much more than you imagine, so do try to reduce this.

    But I think you are entitled to some explanation as to how you improve and whether these are improvements prevented by your ASD status. You could ask several people you trust to give you feedback where they feel you are falling short of expectations, and show your line manager that you are doing this in a genuine effort to resolve things.

    The other thing to remember is jobs are scarce right now. Many people in work are finding their jobs increasingly compromised because employers know people cannot just go and get another job.  And if you do find yourself unemployed getting benefits is harder.

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  • Beware constructive dismissal - my perception of what I've read is they are trying to destabalise your position in the hope you hand in your notice.

    Are they aware of your autistic spectrum status (not just nominally, but what it involves)? If they took you on knowing this they cannot fairly come back on the deal complaining that ASD related difficultries were an issue. Socialising, group dynamics and organisation difficulties are factors they ought to expect.

    But if there are pressures towards team cut backs in the current economic situation, they may well be rumbling to make excuses.

    I experienced a lot of this right through my career, never amounted to enough to end the job, and usually because when it came to it there was only hearsay evidence and quibbles.

    But with being on the spectrum, group dynamics is going to be tricky. And socialising lets face it is bound to be hard work.

    Certain things you may be expected to try - you might be able to improve on being scatty and forgetful by using more organisational aids - diary, calendar, organiser facilities on your computer that give you prompts.

    Also mistrust and resentment will show, much more than you imagine, so do try to reduce this.

    But I think you are entitled to some explanation as to how you improve and whether these are improvements prevented by your ASD status. You could ask several people you trust to give you feedback where they feel you are falling short of expectations, and show your line manager that you are doing this in a genuine effort to resolve things.

    The other thing to remember is jobs are scarce right now. Many people in work are finding their jobs increasingly compromised because employers know people cannot just go and get another job.  And if you do find yourself unemployed getting benefits is harder.

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