To begin with I'll just define a little clearer what I mean by oversharing. What I mean is have you talked about something in a relatively frank manner because you thought it was useful or interesting or funny, but the person, people or group were offended by it. I have, but this question really was having come back from supporting a friend of mine and the upset they felt, and appear to have caused by oversharing.
The issue was about masturbating, this friend of mine has joked, talked frankly about doing it, and incorporated it into long running group jokes etc. for ages. Although they always felt the jokes were landing well and everyone else was joining it. It appears the rest of the friendship group were secretly taking offence, and have come back with a group strategy of shaming this person into believing they have a deep sordid and shameful problem. Like me they are also Autistm and when they were explaining the issue, it reminded me very much of some of the jokes or comments or responses I've had with my friends.
I THINK (I never want to lump ALL Autistic people under the same group), but I THINK that it is a common Autistic characteristic, that you can separate a topic of conversation from your own thoughts, so you can talk freely about things others might find embarrassing. Equally I suspect an Autistic person not being comfortable with the social "rule book" of things OK to talk about can lead then to introduce things into conversations which others see as a toxic no-go area.
Would anyone be comfortable sharing their experiences?