First Ever Zoom Meeting

I’ve got to the age of 57 without ever doing a zoom meeting, this week saw my first ever meeting. I don’t think I will be doing another one.

I had to do a three hour speed awareness course online, the person hosting the course spoke to all nine participants privately, I told him I’m autistic and wanted to know if the other people will be able to see me and I them, I struggle with eye contact. Basically I just had to get on with it and there would only be a 10 minute break in the three hours.

The tech side of it took me a while to setup, after the three hours I was exhausted, I suppose it’s my fault for speeding, option B was three points and a £100 fine.
I don’t know how people do online meetings every day, sorry just venting.

  • That’s a good idea will try that, cheers

  • Thanks Iain, but I'm not interested.

  • I think my pooter has a camera and sound but no microphone,

    You can check this fairly easily if you want.

    Click in the start menu and start typing the word "device" until you see the Device Manager / Control Panel pop up then click on it.

    Click to the left of Audio Devices and Cameras to show the settings under each. It should look somethign like:

    If you see entries under here then you have such devices installed - if you are interested in getting them working then we can help you do a little troubleshooting.

  • I've never done one, I think my pooter has a camera and sound but no microphone, I think I might have uninstalled one of the things I'd need to use zoom. People are amazed that I don't do zoom or anything else like that, the worst one was the group for helping autistic adults that did everything via zoom meeting and after me spending about half an hour telling them on the phone about my problems with tech, she told me that I would have to do some sort of meeting via zoom and was amazed that I didn't have any of the stuff to do it, becaue we're autistic we're all supposed to tech geniuses, it makes me so angry and upset.

    Well done to you Roy for actually managing it, we have a centre in Bangor that does them.

  • Yes same - very self conscious with camera on. 

    If I'm presenting in some meetings then I detach the video bar and drag off main screen onto another monitor - I find it helps me focus on listening + screen content

  • I hope you feel better after venting. No need to apologise, that must have been a lot for you to endure all in 3 hours. Well done on doing it though, no easy task to do x.

    I've had to do Zoom meetings twice, one with family who live at the other end of the world, and I did one as a sort of job interview, lasted about 47 minutes. I remember feeling really stressed and awkward during the whole Zoom session. Didn't enjoy it at all. I was exhausted after both and spent the next day recovering from the ordeal.

    Rest up today. I hope you feel better.

  • Firstly the tech. side challenges me, as it asks about using microphones etc. When my son was at school during the pandemic we had meetings with staff via Google meet. On some occasions by the time it worked the 5 minute slot was nearly over. We have meetings this way at work too and again I often have sound problems. One large meeting I went to it took half the meeting whilst I found someone on the meeting to help me get in. However the plus point is I don't have to go in person.

    As for seeing people close up, most of us go on the picture rather than live mode at work.

    Well done for doing it.

  • Yes I don't like them, I can't concentrate being able to see myself on camera and having all those faces staring back at me, not knowing where to look. I did speed awareness in person and found it OK. There were a lot of people there so I didn't feel attention was just on me like I do online (even if it isn't, it's just how I feel).

    At least it's done now!

  • Yes daily life for me at work

    Often if same set of folks we seem to collectively not switch our cameras on - but if new folk or ones we don't interact regularly we tend to put cameras on.

    Interviews now seems to have shifted online, and a few years ago one interviewer didn't switch their camera on, which I found quite unnerving TBH as I felt more in the spotlight with my camera on, I got the job. In some way better than wasting time and money travelling to attend an interview - I think this is just the way it is now, for many, post-pandemic

    Well done for sticking the course out

  • I have got used to it now with teams and FaceTime. Can’t say I am mega comfortable I tend to spend most of the time watching my face to make sure I am doing what would be expected of me. It can be a bit distracting.