My fiancé has Autism, ADHD, severe depression and anxiety.

Hi I hope anyone could help me in anyway. My partner is struggling really bad at the moment. He does have alot going on in his life. And I understand it being very overwhelming and that's what's making things worse for him. However I don't know how to help him. Nothing I say is comforting him, he has an answer for everything and nothing I say is right he's the only one who's right, even if I have evidence he doesn't accept it. He gets very angry over situations that are happening and I think this is just his anxiety about what's going on and that's how he's expressing his feelings. He was on antidepressants and propranolol but didn't notice a difference so he stopped all of that, he's also had therapy and cbt. I don't know where to go for help, because he doesn't want help from anyone. He's been fobbed off so many times I can understand why he doesnt want to reach out. I'm at a loss, my mental health is declining at this point too and I can't see a way to help. Any advice or anything that can help is greatly appreciated. 

  • I can understand why he doesn't want help when so many doctors have fobbed him off but he's gotta learn to trust them again. Thank you for your advice I know I should get myself some help too. I just wish I could take away how he's feeling right now. 

  • He needs to speak to his doctor and get the correct medication to help - there are lots of different ones they can try, but he has to ask them to help. If he refuses to, there is nothing that can be done for him.

    I'm not offering medical advice here and I'm not a trained therapist, but I'd suggest that you stop trying to make him feel better and express how awful you feel, and don't stop yourself crying in front of him. Tell him you can't go on like this. Perhaps if he sees his support person has been "broken" by the situation he will realise he really does need professional help.

    Look after yourself - I wish you well