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Recently diagnosed, not bothered, is that normal too?

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Is it just me or are there others who didn't have any particular reaction or emotional response to their diagnosis?

I had the same with my Bipolar diagnosis 10ish years ago. That time it made sense of my severe extremes of mood, from euphoric to suicidal. It also explained the psychotic episodes. It was interesting, but nothing life changing. I just accepted it as part of me and that was the end of it.

Autism makes sense of stuff too: the not-quite-hypomania where I become totally obsessed with certain things. Difficulties with social interactions, sensory issues etc. etc

However, I don't have any of the anger, grief, depression, massive relief etc. that other people talk about. I'm comfortable with being autistic and I don't "feel" anything about being diagnosed. It's just another part of me now, no issues.

Is that normal too?

Btw: I don't need links for things to read about being diagnosed. I've read loads already and am a bit bored of reading about all this stuff I apparently might feel but don't. Neither do I want the "why not do therapy" suggestion. I'm literally just wondering if there's others out there like me.

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  • Every reaction is normal, we are all different. I’m not diagnosed so far, but the moment of self discovery (absolutely accidentally) I had a strong meltdown out of mix of strong emotions, too strong to process them. Now I think there was some shock, maybe also grief and idk what else. That was intense. I threw myself a high pressure shower to calm down. I felt somehow that I need a shower (not for hygiene reason) but for sensory. I think, now or in the future if I receive the diagnosis, I would take it calmly. I will see. My daughter’s teacher is encouraging me to get myself assessed because I struggle identifying and expressing emotions and it influences my daughter’s development negatively. There is also a suspicion that my daughter herself is autistic. So she would probably also get assessed. 

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Thank you for sharing your experience and for saying my (non)reaction is normal too. I hope you and your daughter get any help you need.

    I don't do the whole "emotions" thing either. In terms of identifying or talking about them that is. I have 'em alright. Nasty, unpredictable, disruptive things that make me physically ill or mentally unstable (ie bipolar manic or depressive). I had an alexithymia diagnosis thrown in with my autism so that's probably at the root of at least some of my dysfunctional relationship with emotions (maybe a touch of PTSD too, but that's undiagnosed).

    I'm uncomfortable with a teacher saying you're negatively influencing your daughter's development though. I'd say an opinion like that should only ever come from someone qualified in psychology/psychiatry after talking with both of you in depth.

    I don't have kids, but I imagine it's hard enough being a parent already without that sort of off-the-cuff criticism. I know my mum did an awesome job of bringing me up and attach no causal link to her for my various conditions.

    Maybe I'm getting annoyed unnecessarily. I do tend towards being irritated by stuff. Best wishes anyhow Slight smile

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  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Thank you for sharing your experience and for saying my (non)reaction is normal too. I hope you and your daughter get any help you need.

    I don't do the whole "emotions" thing either. In terms of identifying or talking about them that is. I have 'em alright. Nasty, unpredictable, disruptive things that make me physically ill or mentally unstable (ie bipolar manic or depressive). I had an alexithymia diagnosis thrown in with my autism so that's probably at the root of at least some of my dysfunctional relationship with emotions (maybe a touch of PTSD too, but that's undiagnosed).

    I'm uncomfortable with a teacher saying you're negatively influencing your daughter's development though. I'd say an opinion like that should only ever come from someone qualified in psychology/psychiatry after talking with both of you in depth.

    I don't have kids, but I imagine it's hard enough being a parent already without that sort of off-the-cuff criticism. I know my mum did an awesome job of bringing me up and attach no causal link to her for my various conditions.

    Maybe I'm getting annoyed unnecessarily. I do tend towards being irritated by stuff. Best wishes anyhow Slight smile

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