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Rudeness?

Samuel50

Interested in any thoughts on this one.

So I'm on holiday this week. Enjoying lunch outside with my partner.

A singer starts up not far away, not great and I can't shut him out.

So he's distracting, but I figure he's a right to be there I suppose.

He comes over after a particularly poor (imho) performance and asks for tips.

I say "no, thank-you, I didn't enjoy it"

He replies huffily "thanks for your opinion, no-one cares"

So my partner says the guy will think I'm rude

I suppose I was when I think about it

What was going through my head was "you've annoyed me and now you want a tip so I want to express my annoyance politely so I'll add a thank-you"

No idea how much of what I do is autistic or just bad manners sometimes. I really wasn't trying to spoil anyone's day.

Also, why am I still thinking about it 6 hours later?

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  • I'd have said the same and probably challenged him back after he said no one cares for your opinion, my response would have been 'why ask for then'? and it probably would of got a bit ugly after that. I've had charity chuggers say similar stuff to me, when I've refused to give them money or sign up for monthly direct debits.

    The busker guy was rude and why was he going round tables hassling a cafe/restuarants customers? Was that with the permission of the management of the establishment?

    Are you still thinking about it because your partner said he'd think you were rude? I think that's the bit that would have me thinking about it for hours afterwards. I'd find that confusing and upsetting, why aren't they suporting you, why does your partner care about what a stranger thinks?

    I think buskers and the like have a nerve to expect everyone to enjoy thier performance, I have a particular dislike of electric buskers, where they have an amp and a backing track that they play along too. There's also a guy in Bangor who sits there whistling, whistling hits some sort of kill switch in my brain and I have to really conciously hold myself together not to beat him to a pulp.

    Busking like this is a form of noise pollution, only we're all supposed to like it and suck it up if we don't because people will think we're kill joys...and I care because?

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  • I'd have said the same and probably challenged him back after he said no one cares for your opinion, my response would have been 'why ask for then'? and it probably would of got a bit ugly after that. I've had charity chuggers say similar stuff to me, when I've refused to give them money or sign up for monthly direct debits.

    The busker guy was rude and why was he going round tables hassling a cafe/restuarants customers? Was that with the permission of the management of the establishment?

    Are you still thinking about it because your partner said he'd think you were rude? I think that's the bit that would have me thinking about it for hours afterwards. I'd find that confusing and upsetting, why aren't they suporting you, why does your partner care about what a stranger thinks?

    I think buskers and the like have a nerve to expect everyone to enjoy thier performance, I have a particular dislike of electric buskers, where they have an amp and a backing track that they play along too. There's also a guy in Bangor who sits there whistling, whistling hits some sort of kill switch in my brain and I have to really conciously hold myself together not to beat him to a pulp.

    Busking like this is a form of noise pollution, only we're all supposed to like it and suck it up if we don't because people will think we're kill joys...and I care because?

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