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I don't have any autistic friends

KL

Hello everyone I am taking a break from social media but I am trying to connect more to people here. I find that there are some toxic people out there who know how to hurt me when I am vulnerable so I have to distance myself from them. I'm really sad at the moment but I still need to interact with people other than my husband. Not that there's anything wrong with him but he's my person and I don't want to always put everything on him. I tried to post yesterday but I guess my post didn't go through. 

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  • I relate to what you're saying. I don't really have any autistic friends. My best friend and husband are NT and are amazing people, I have some friends who consider themselves NT but I think they are NDs in denial :-D 

    I tried social media but found it extremely toxic, unless you agree with the majority you're subject to hate and abuse, and this includes autistic people, not just neurotypicals. I won't use it again.

    It's very difficult to meet likeminded people, I've found, even in the neurodiverse world. It only takes one person to hurt me before I back off and lose all confidence. I feel it's about finding things in common regardless if they're autistic or not, but being friends with neurotypical people does mean both sides have to adapt. I won't change for someone, but I'm happy to adapt to avoid misunderstandings as long as they are too. 

    I also feel there's a generation gap. Young people seem to be more comfortable with their neurodiverse identities than me, a 40 year old who's only just come to terms with it. I think it's great more people are talking about it now, but I have found some people talk about it a lot, and I don't just want to talk to about autism with autistic people, yet it seems to be the easiest topic because I can't relate to what some of the young people are into these days.

    Anyway, I hope you find people you connect with on here.

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  • I relate to what you're saying. I don't really have any autistic friends. My best friend and husband are NT and are amazing people, I have some friends who consider themselves NT but I think they are NDs in denial :-D 

    I tried social media but found it extremely toxic, unless you agree with the majority you're subject to hate and abuse, and this includes autistic people, not just neurotypicals. I won't use it again.

    It's very difficult to meet likeminded people, I've found, even in the neurodiverse world. It only takes one person to hurt me before I back off and lose all confidence. I feel it's about finding things in common regardless if they're autistic or not, but being friends with neurotypical people does mean both sides have to adapt. I won't change for someone, but I'm happy to adapt to avoid misunderstandings as long as they are too. 

    I also feel there's a generation gap. Young people seem to be more comfortable with their neurodiverse identities than me, a 40 year old who's only just come to terms with it. I think it's great more people are talking about it now, but I have found some people talk about it a lot, and I don't just want to talk to about autism with autistic people, yet it seems to be the easiest topic because I can't relate to what some of the young people are into these days.

    Anyway, I hope you find people you connect with on here.

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