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Having a better day today

Rach91

Hi I’m still struggling but I’m grateful that I decided not to end things. Spoke to my friend and I’ve been giving him a hard time lately putting pressure on him when he doesn’t want to do things. January blues are kicking and it’s the stress of finances and not getting any work I am going to speak to the job centre about my mental health and I’m looking for permanent work as well and I’m going to start counselling on Monday and tomorrow I’m going to an autism hub the next town over from me half hour bus journey a 10 minute train journey which I love and I’m looking into more support. I’m seeing my friend on Sunday as long as I’m on my best behaviour and I don’t put pressure on him which I promised I won’t I need to enjoy being in his company and start appreciating my time with him and I need to start appreciating life more. I also want thank everyone who commented in my last post and I appreciate the support I’m getting on this forum. 

  • Pleased to hear you are having a better day. 

    That all sounds like a fantastic plan and much more positive.

    Take care!

  • I can't remember if you said in the other post if your friend was ASD or not, but it is difficult for those that are ASD to have equal relationships with those that aren't on that wavelength sometimes.   If you could find some time to try hearing your friend's issues, even ask about their day and how they are feeling, it may give you a break from talking about your own struggles and make your relationship stronger for both of you.  Your friend will appreciate you asking, and listening.  Even if you don't find what they say of interest, it is the way to go I feel. 

    You may well do this already, and that's great, but if not, give it a go.  I'm prepared to have my head bitten off if I am telling you something you know already, but it is a tactic that was suggested to me, and I've had to learn it over time. 

    I'm pleased you are feeling & sounding more positive and have a plan. 

  • Glad to hear it. Remember when you get down that you are stronger than you think.