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Struggling mentally this weekend

Rach91

Hi I am really having a hard time this weekend my friend has blocked me on Thursday and has asked for some space. I know he has been ok as he still sending me good night hugs through WhatsApp. But I anxious all the time it’s draining me and I’m exhausted. I keep feeling the worst and this is going to sound crazy but I keep thinking he died in his sleep. He fine he not ill or anything like that but I keep thinking he’s dead until I hear from him I’m constantly on edge. I am starting therapy to get over my fear and bad thoughts of him dying in his sleep so I really hope it works. I’m hoping he will unblock me today or tomorrow the latest. I just want all my worries to go away and I want my friend back. 

  • in reply to Rach91

    It's pretty expected then to be worried, I hope things are ok now, all that anxiety will leave you exhausted.

  • in reply to Another Autistician

    My friend has autism as well and it was the trauma of losing my mum so suddenly to a heart condition that makes me worry about my friend who had a similar condition to my mum but he survived and had surgery to save him. 

  • in reply to Rach91

    Glad to hear it was ok in the end 

    I think we tend to assume the worst and I know "autistic Fantasy thinking" plays a part, especially if already stressed and worried. I come up with all manner of crazy scenarios in my head and get convinced they're true, as the simple truth is usually failed safe and I worry I'm tempting fate if I assume things are ok.

    It's not normal but it's normal for us autistic folk, so probably very hard for NTs to understand or relate to, so often best to avoid exposing them to it and just appear "ok" to them.

    We perhaps need a phrase like "NFA" meaning "normal for autistics" so we can label our daft thoughts appropriately as we have them! I tend to say I'm "FINE" often, people think I mean it, others who know me well know I'm refering to aerosmith lyrics Rofl

  • Update spoke to my friend he is absolutely fine just needed some space after our argument and I’m unblocked. 

  • in reply to Iain

    Thanks for your advice we are still friends he WhatsApp’s me gd night with a virtual hug and blocks me again. I’ve learnt my lessons from past mistakes. 

  • Rach91 said:
    I keep feeling the worst and this is going to sound crazy but I keep thinking he died in his sleep. He fine he not ill or anything like that but I keep thinking he’s dead until I hear from him I’m constantly on edge

    You could try writing down your concern and then make notes on what the chances of such a thing happening are.

    Rather than him being dead why not think he may be abducted by aliens, picked up a brain parasite that has altered his personality of has been recruited by the govenment for clandestine operations.

    All are probalby just as possible so why worry about one? Sometimes seeing how irrational the fear is helps your rational mind shut down that bit of nonsense in your thought processes, but working it through is what gives the rational brain the ammunition it needs.

    Anxiety over things you cannot control is a biggie for a lot of us. What have you tried so far to deal with this better ( I recall similar issues of anxiety being talked about before)?

    Rach91 said:
    I just want all my worries to go away and I want my friend back. 

    You can do something about the former but the latter you need to give them space - hounding them will only make it worse in my experience.