My boyfriend is in his 30s he lives at home with his parents . He feels he can’t come out to them because his dad is very homophobic . So we have been seeing each other after he finish work at his voluntary job . He is a capable adult he manages his own shopping,money and he is learning to drive . He needs minimal support day to day . But his boss has reported to his dad about us meeting Because apparently she said she has a safe plan in place with his dad . So now his dad has gone mad and my boyfriend is escorted into work and out of work . If he wants to go shopping he has to now be escorted . His dad tracks his location on his phone and he isn’t allowed to see friends . He gets no free time out of. He is monitored all the time and his dad intimidates him into doing as he says . And also puts him down and constantly criticises him . To me it sounds like coercive control . And friend hd works with is also worried about him . But he says he doesn’t see why people think it’s bad . And he just accepts it . But he says he is heartbroken that he can’t see me anymore and he can’t cope losing me and he doesn’t want to loose me . But he can’t or won’t stand up to his dad . I want try t try o know how I support him and show him that what his dad is doing is not right . But without causing him to be overwhelmed and shutting down . He wants to be with me and tells me he loves me all the time . Please help . I’m making myself ill worrying
