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Coping with change at work

PurpleFlower

Hi all, I'm new to this forum so apologies in advance if I'm not doing something correctly! 

I've been having some troubles at work this week. I've had a new manager (temporary), and I'm really struggling to cope with this change. This was very unexpected and without any warning, which makes it much harder to deal with. I find myself crying daily as I just can't cope and adjust to this huge change (luckily I work from home Sweat smile) 

I told my workplace before that I need warnings to adjust to changes, and the fact that they ignored that request makes it difficult to process as well. I talked quite openly about my autism and mental health with my previous manager but I'm not comfortable to do so with my new manager yet.

I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences and / or advice? 

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  • Sometimes change just happens - if your manager had to take a break for medical reasons, personal emergency or similar then they would need someone to step in to fill the position.

    Your need to notice may not be able to be met so finding ways to cope with it will be essential to survive.

    My recommendation would to to learn about mindfulness and try practicing it for a while - it helps your rational brain overrule your less rational brain (the one that struggles with change) by telling it that this is outside of your control, you cannot control it so don't fight it - try to roll with the punches.

    If you are able to put this into operation then you should find a lot less stress in your life.

    Not everyone is able to apply it but it worked for me and I've heard from others here that they have had success with it.

    PurpleFlower said:
    I talked quite openly about my autism and mental health with my previous manager but I'm not comfortable to do so with my new manager yet.

    In this case I do suggest you get over this reservation and let them know otherwise they will unwittingly make changes that will cause you way more stress than telling them. If they lack the full picture then it is also not fair on them that you could be making your self ill from the stress when there is no need for it, reducing their headcount and placing more stress on your work coleagues.

    Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

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  • Sometimes change just happens - if your manager had to take a break for medical reasons, personal emergency or similar then they would need someone to step in to fill the position.

    Your need to notice may not be able to be met so finding ways to cope with it will be essential to survive.

    My recommendation would to to learn about mindfulness and try practicing it for a while - it helps your rational brain overrule your less rational brain (the one that struggles with change) by telling it that this is outside of your control, you cannot control it so don't fight it - try to roll with the punches.

    If you are able to put this into operation then you should find a lot less stress in your life.

    Not everyone is able to apply it but it worked for me and I've heard from others here that they have had success with it.

    PurpleFlower said:
    I talked quite openly about my autism and mental health with my previous manager but I'm not comfortable to do so with my new manager yet.

    In this case I do suggest you get over this reservation and let them know otherwise they will unwittingly make changes that will cause you way more stress than telling them. If they lack the full picture then it is also not fair on them that you could be making your self ill from the stress when there is no need for it, reducing their headcount and placing more stress on your work coleagues.

    Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

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