Before the content I wanted to write, I thought a lot about the question of definitions and what is the accuracy. I realized, in my opinion, that it doesn't matter what word is used to define a difficulty. It doesn't matter whether social anxiety led to it or not at all or whether the definition is accurate. Because it's basically taking an unpleasant and private experience and making it part of a group. Even without being in any group. Maybe that's what the person who wrote here about religion meant, I don't know.
I'm only talking about the question of diagnosis and definition. As a continuation of the question that I ask myself what the correct diagnosis is, what if it looks like something but is caused by something else. Maybe it's just plain weird. So at least for this question it doesn't matter (I don't know how the word is accepted in Britain but it means weird in a positive sense).
For example
40 years ago being gay was a secret. Some tried to fit in. To pretend and pay a high price of difficulty. Then two things happened at the same time. on the one hand that child who felt ashamed discovered that it wasn't something that only happened to him. At the same time, society understood that it wasn't a problem. At first, coming out was like saying "I'm different and it's forever, so stop expecting me to change."
In both cases, the difficulties were caused by social norms. Even knowing that it wasn't actually a problem didn't change society's attitude until years later and through famous figures.
But the first step was to say I'm allowed to be different.
That's not the topic I wanted, but it ended up being too long and I also started to get confused by the amount of explanation after explanation. I just wanted two lines as an introduction, it always happens.
