Places to unmask 'safely'

NAS90085 said:

The problem is, the thoughts I have aren't politically correct (PC). I make myself PC in the 'real' world because so called NT people will be shocked or taken back by my responses. Also, I may come across as toxic or crazy or extreme or dangerous if I speak my thoughts out loud. 

It sounds like you need someone who can help you look at why you have these thoughts (often rooted in our beliefs) and why they could be considered offensive to help you work through them to see if they are "true" or the result of a misunderstood belief.

Working with a therapist with a good understanding of whatever neurodiverse condition you have would be the most effective way to help you get them off your chest and also see if they are opinions which have any basis in reality.

Some people have a belief that all those of a particular religion / political belief / sexual orientation or whatever should be locked up or worse - these are beliefs that are likely to get you into a lot of trouble because they are likely to lead to discrimination at the very least.

We are allowed to hold any belief we want - there are some here who have extreme religious beliefs that we should live under draconian religious dictatorship and have no rights to free expression as the world has become such a sinful place.

These beliefs are tolerated because they are mostly fantasy and don't actively seek to discriminate on any specific group - everyone should be punished.

Realising where there is a risk is important and realising where your thoughts could be dangerous is essential - these are all areas the therapist can help you with exploring the opinion, holding the fact up to the light and helping you reconsider if they are "reasonable" in the balance of things.

In the meantime I would suggest not sharing these thoughts with anyone as you do point out

NAS90085 said:

I may come across as toxic or crazy or extreme or dangerous if I speak my thoughts out loud. 

You already know how bad these thoughts are so get some help please.

Good luck

It sounds like you need someone who can help you look at why you have these thoughts (often rooted in our beliefs) and why they could be considered offensive to help you work through them to see if they are "true" or the result of a misunderstood belief.

Working with a therapist with a good understanding of whatever neurodiverse condition you have would be the most effective way to help you get them off your chest and also see if they are opinions which have any basis in reality.

Some people have a belief that all those of a particular religion / political belief / sexual orientation or whatever should be locked up or worse - these are beliefs that are likely to get you into a lot of trouble because they are likely to lead to discrimination at the very least.

We are allowed to hold any belief we want - there are some here who have extreme religious beliefs that we should live under draconian religious dictatorship and have no rights to free expression as the world has become such a sinful place.

These beliefs are tolerated because they are mostly fantasy and don't actively seek to discriminate on any specific group - everyone should be punished.

Realising where there is a risk is important and realising where your thoughts could be dangerous is essential - these are all areas the therapist can help you with exploring the opinion, holding the fact up to the light and helping you reconsider if they are "reasonable" in the balance of things.

In the meantime I would suggest not sharing these thoughts with anyone as you do point out

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If a view is offensive, is it automatically bad?

They could be considered dangerous by mainstream society. But why is that relevant?

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You already know how bad these thoughts are so get some help please.
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So in summary, if I think differently than other people I need to keep it to myself?

NAS90085 said:

If a view is offensive, is it automatically bad?

They could be considered dangerous by mainstream society. But why is that relevant?

They are bad if your stating of them offends a protected person because of their protected status.

For example if you said you thought all Jewish people deserved what happened in the Holocaust. This crosses a boundry between your right to express an opinion and into hate speech as I understand it.

This is only an illustration to make the point.

Why is it relevant in society? It is relevant because you live within a set of laws created by that society and some of these can impact you if you are found to have made them to someone who makes a complaint.

If there is a way to prove you made this hate speech then the law can be used against you.

NAS90085 said:

So in summary, if I think differently than other people I need to keep it to myself?

In essence if your opinions are dangerous then yes, keep it to yourself or more sensibly use a therapist to help you hold a mirror up to thise beliefs to see if they are warranted. Most times they are based on falsehoods, misunderstandings or traumatic responses and realising this you can examine them with this in mind and see if the same conclusions are reached when you work though the facts.

If you come to the same conclusions at the end of this then you the opinions stand, but it really helps to understand the damage they can cause others when you state them to others.

Understanding the importance of a little empathy is powerful tool in co-existing with others in society without harming others (mentally in this case).

NAS90085 said:

If a view is offensive, is it automatically bad?

They could be considered dangerous by mainstream society. But why is that relevant?

They are bad if your stating of them offends a protected person because of their protected status.

For example if you said you thought all Jewish people deserved what happened in the Holocaust. This crosses a boundry between your right to express an opinion and into hate speech as I understand it.

This is only an illustration to make the point.

Why is it relevant in society? It is relevant because you live within a set of laws created by that society and some of these can impact you if you are found to have made them to someone who makes a complaint.

If there is a way to prove you made this hate speech then the law can be used against you.

NAS90085 said:

So in summary, if I think differently than other people I need to keep it to myself?

In essence if your opinions are dangerous then yes, keep it to yourself or more sensibly use a therapist to help you hold a mirror up to thise beliefs to see if they are warranted. Most times they are based on falsehoods, misunderstandings or traumatic responses and realising this you can examine them with this in mind and see if the same conclusions are reached when you work though the facts.

If you come to the same conclusions at the end of this then you the opinions stand, but it really helps to understand the damage they can cause others when you state them to others.

Understanding the importance of a little empathy is powerful tool in co-existing with others in society without harming others (mentally in this case).