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Not autistic diagnosis

notthatmuchautistic

Hello,

This morning I have my diagnosis from NHS. they told me that while I have autistic traits and they understand why I would pursuit an assessment, I didn't  make the criteria for a diagnosis, they mention specially my empathy and my facial expressions, that are normal.

I don't  know how to feel. I have a child with autism and our similarities was what made me search for an evaluation.

At the moment, I have some accommodations at my job that are in place under the premise that I am undergoing the process of autism diagnosis. Those adaptations have made my life much easier  and I don't  want to cry every day when I am going to my job (like before).

I am guessing  that once my job knows that I don't  have autism I am losing  that help and I don't  know what to do.

I don't  want to be the kind of person that take advantage  of the system and have benefits  that doesn't  need, but I do struggle and now I don't know what to do next.

I hope this post doesn't  offend people with autism, I know this forum  is for the autistic community and I am not sure if I should  post.

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  • I think that for people who mask heavily, the trick is to explore the things that your assessor might get wrong from just observation within the questionnaire you fill in yourself. I appear to make 'normal' eye contact, but I do it consciously, not in the unconscious neurotypical way (I time it). I appear to converse 'normally' most of the time, but I highlighted occasions when my close family members did not pick up on my intent because my tone of voice or facial expression did not convey my mood accurately. 

  • in reply to Martin

    THIS. My eye contact is also conscious. I learned this when I was a Hairdresser Apprentice and it was quite a hurdle, but I have it down to a T now. I did tell the assessor that but he didn't really react to that. 

  • in reply to TierMutter

    The response of your assessor was unprofessional. The diagnostic manuals do not say 'avoid' or 'difficulties with' eye contact, but 'abnormalities in eye contact'. This obviously includes consciously timing it, as neurotypicals make eye contact without conscious volition.

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