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Not autistic diagnosis

notthatmuchautistic

Hello,

This morning I have my diagnosis from NHS. they told me that while I have autistic traits and they understand why I would pursuit an assessment, I didn't  make the criteria for a diagnosis, they mention specially my empathy and my facial expressions, that are normal.

I don't  know how to feel. I have a child with autism and our similarities was what made me search for an evaluation.

At the moment, I have some accommodations at my job that are in place under the premise that I am undergoing the process of autism diagnosis. Those adaptations have made my life much easier  and I don't  want to cry every day when I am going to my job (like before).

I am guessing  that once my job knows that I don't  have autism I am losing  that help and I don't  know what to do.

I don't  want to be the kind of person that take advantage  of the system and have benefits  that doesn't  need, but I do struggle and now I don't know what to do next.

I hope this post doesn't  offend people with autism, I know this forum  is for the autistic community and I am not sure if I should  post.

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  • I have adjustments without diagnosis. I had massive problems with facial expressions social cues etc as a child. Now as I grew up I got some life experience, after years of observations I learned some basics. So I would maybe also not meet the criteria. Maybe if at work your boss or colleagues don’t ask you for the outcome, then maybe you can just skip mentioning it and that’s it. I’m allowed to use earplugs because I have sensitive hearing - confirmed by hearing test. I ask my colleagues to give me pause for processing what I heard because I have slower auditory processing. I have these problems and I keep recognizing these I have my whole life and always thought that I’m dumb. And even if I received a message that I’m not autistic, I still have these problems and it doesn’t cancel the fact that I still need some adjustments. But I also have some strengths like for example attention to detail, I’m hard working and not gossiping. Neurodiversity is wide, there are various conditions that make people struggle in many areas of life. I wish you find here support and connections. I had same doubts if I should exist here. And I still do but I’m here. 

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  • I have adjustments without diagnosis. I had massive problems with facial expressions social cues etc as a child. Now as I grew up I got some life experience, after years of observations I learned some basics. So I would maybe also not meet the criteria. Maybe if at work your boss or colleagues don’t ask you for the outcome, then maybe you can just skip mentioning it and that’s it. I’m allowed to use earplugs because I have sensitive hearing - confirmed by hearing test. I ask my colleagues to give me pause for processing what I heard because I have slower auditory processing. I have these problems and I keep recognizing these I have my whole life and always thought that I’m dumb. And even if I received a message that I’m not autistic, I still have these problems and it doesn’t cancel the fact that I still need some adjustments. But I also have some strengths like for example attention to detail, I’m hard working and not gossiping. Neurodiversity is wide, there are various conditions that make people struggle in many areas of life. I wish you find here support and connections. I had same doubts if I should exist here. And I still do but I’m here. 

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