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Formality

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I realised only relatively recently that I interact rather formally with people I don’t know well.

As I’ve said on here before, I need time to build a mental model of other people before I can be comfortable interacting with them. In the meantime I must come across as very stiff, because I’m being incredibly careful not to overstep any boundaries or make any assumptions.

But this must be one of the things that hampers my efforts to make friends. How can other people be comfortable around someone who is stiff and formal? Nevermind flirting!

Do any of you do this?

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  • I think that our sense of formality could be a huge advantage to us when advocating for our rights as autistic people, in government, in business and in other settings and indeed, in interacting with rulers and royal families when advocating for our rights - think of “formality” as being classy, behaving appropriately in various formal settings, as having dignity, mutual respect for ourselves and others 

  • in reply to IrishInManchesterUK

    I would agree, in fact my drive to 'do things the right way' meant that I was able to secure for a group of employees the bare minimum of legal rights that we were entitled to. I did this with a simple letter. The very fact that should even have been necessary is baffling to me, but I *think* that is an example of where the sense of formality helped.

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