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Formality

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I realised only relatively recently that I interact rather formally with people I don’t know well.

As I’ve said on here before, I need time to build a mental model of other people before I can be comfortable interacting with them. In the meantime I must come across as very stiff, because I’m being incredibly careful not to overstep any boundaries or make any assumptions.

But this must be one of the things that hampers my efforts to make friends. How can other people be comfortable around someone who is stiff and formal? Nevermind flirting!

Do any of you do this?

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  • Oh my goodness! I thought I was the only one who spoke formally! I have recently received my autism assessment diagnosis report with feedback and that is how it describes me. I thought I was just being polite due to my parents being sticklers for good manners! I would love to be able to make friends easily, but I don’t know how I can change my speech and I don’t think I want to change either. If non autistic people realised we are not all brilliant geniuses with a mind boggling ability or children with severe cognitive impairment, and that the autistic spectrum can embrace many threads, with nobody exactly the same, I think we would have a much better chance of being accepted and liked as we are. 

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  • Oh my goodness! I thought I was the only one who spoke formally! I have recently received my autism assessment diagnosis report with feedback and that is how it describes me. I thought I was just being polite due to my parents being sticklers for good manners! I would love to be able to make friends easily, but I don’t know how I can change my speech and I don’t think I want to change either. If non autistic people realised we are not all brilliant geniuses with a mind boggling ability or children with severe cognitive impairment, and that the autistic spectrum can embrace many threads, with nobody exactly the same, I think we would have a much better chance of being accepted and liked as we are. 

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