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Formality

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I realised only relatively recently that I interact rather formally with people I don’t know well.

As I’ve said on here before, I need time to build a mental model of other people before I can be comfortable interacting with them. In the meantime I must come across as very stiff, because I’m being incredibly careful not to overstep any boundaries or make any assumptions.

But this must be one of the things that hampers my efforts to make friends. How can other people be comfortable around someone who is stiff and formal? Nevermind flirting!

Do any of you do this?

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  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    In my teens and twenties I was often asked what was wrong or why am I depressed because me internal emotional state was rarely reflected on my face. I’m better at it now but it’s still an issue Slight smile

    I really wish I could do playful smalltalk with strangers but I feel as if I’m breaking all the rules or invading their personal space.

    There are people at work who could crack cheeky jokes in a roomful of strangers. I really envy that.