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Formality

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I realised only relatively recently that I interact rather formally with people I don’t know well.

As I’ve said on here before, I need time to build a mental model of other people before I can be comfortable interacting with them. In the meantime I must come across as very stiff, because I’m being incredibly careful not to overstep any boundaries or make any assumptions.

But this must be one of the things that hampers my efforts to make friends. How can other people be comfortable around someone who is stiff and formal? Nevermind flirting!

Do any of you do this?

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  • I prefer a more formal approach until I start to know someone a bit better. I don't want to hug someone I just met, I also don't really want to shake their hand. I'd prefer that we all bowed, like the Japanese, but it's not our culture so I just smile and be polite and hope they respond the same way.

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  • I prefer a more formal approach until I start to know someone a bit better. I don't want to hug someone I just met, I also don't really want to shake their hand. I'd prefer that we all bowed, like the Japanese, but it's not our culture so I just smile and be polite and hope they respond the same way.

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