Burn out and Skills Regression

Hello wonderful community! So I have been in burn out since September, however just today after much thought I realized I've had a patterning of burning out every 3 to 4 years. This burn out is different, I feel like I have regressed in so many ways, and I feel like baby relearning things again. I would love some insight of what your experiences of burnout have been and what recovery looks like. All the coping mechanisms to get through doesn't work anymore and I feel like I've regressed into a BIG CHILD trying to remember what it means to "adult" again. 

Presently, recovery has been me sleeping a lot, eating the foods I like, doing the things I like and barely working. I feel like this year was the straw that broke the camel's back per say. I am also struggling to "be okay" where I am especially since I do not have the means to really "recover" in a cabin in the mountains somewhere which I believe would really help my soul at the moment. Trying to figure out money and support myself during recovery is a bit of challenge. 

I would really like to hear your thoughts and stories. 

Much Gratitude!

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  • hi wonderful  !  I've had a "year that breaks the camels back" too.  Regression as you describe it is a similar experience for me.  For myself it is partly ascribable to loss of confidence on capability - even when "recovering" there is the nagging doubt that is linked with having seen how easy the whole pack of cards can tumble down.  Having this happen repeatedly can lead to a sense of hopelessness.  Recovery for me is now in the context of not aiming to be like I was before - after all look what happened later... So rather than recovery I am aiming to some extent for re-imagination, re-creation and re-discovery.  This is the baby like nature that you refer to perhaps.  This in itself takes energy before it can start to generate its own momentum therefore gentle care and attention seems to be necessary.  Neurotypical society appears to want to reinforce set backs rather than enable progression in my experience.  Getting support coming thro' burnout is tricky in a culture that appears to expect so much of everyone all the time these days and has a strange perspective on what it means to be a high achiever.  As regards finance - yep got those concerns too - same reasons...  I wish you all the best :-)

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  • hi wonderful  !  I've had a "year that breaks the camels back" too.  Regression as you describe it is a similar experience for me.  For myself it is partly ascribable to loss of confidence on capability - even when "recovering" there is the nagging doubt that is linked with having seen how easy the whole pack of cards can tumble down.  Having this happen repeatedly can lead to a sense of hopelessness.  Recovery for me is now in the context of not aiming to be like I was before - after all look what happened later... So rather than recovery I am aiming to some extent for re-imagination, re-creation and re-discovery.  This is the baby like nature that you refer to perhaps.  This in itself takes energy before it can start to generate its own momentum therefore gentle care and attention seems to be necessary.  Neurotypical society appears to want to reinforce set backs rather than enable progression in my experience.  Getting support coming thro' burnout is tricky in a culture that appears to expect so much of everyone all the time these days and has a strange perspective on what it means to be a high achiever.  As regards finance - yep got those concerns too - same reasons...  I wish you all the best :-)

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