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Dating is so hard for Autistic people

AmyLR94

Why is it so hard to find someone genuine when it comes to dating Pensive.

I thought I would take the big step and join Tinder (again) and FB dating (again). Today I was speaking to someone on FB and he sounded nice and genuine, but something was off and he kept calling me babe and baby with kisses. Then he said he was thinking of be all day and then when I said if he could hold back from calling me baby and babe as I don’t know him that well, he deactivates he account after sending me a message saying “Take Care, your not the lady for me” *sighs*

I feel like I should just stay single and alone Pensive, it’s so hard to find someone.

I just want to feel loved and do all those couple things that everyone does SobSob x

UPDATE: Thank you to the people who have commented so far Relaxed️. I have deleted Tinder and FB Dating. I don’t think Dating apps are for me as I find it so hard to understand if someone is being genuine or just messing with my feelings.

I turned 30 this year so I wanted to actually find someone who would like me the way I am *sighs* but it’s difficult to find anyone genuine these days. Looks like I will be alone with pets for the rest of my life. 

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  • I used to be on a dating site and many people were NT and had many of the same issues as you've had, over familiarity, scammers, inauthenticity the lot. Many feel as though they will be alone for the rest of thier lives too with a cat for company, quite a few people said they wouldn't date a woman with a cat. One thing that came up over and over again amongst women was, why do so many men post pictures of themselves with big fish they've just caught? Maybe some men see it as advertising thier prowess at providing or something, most women see it as another way they're going spend weekends and holidays alone.

    I hope you find someone, but this is a problem for NT's and ND's

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    quite a few people said they wouldn't date a woman with a cat

    I don't really get that, sounds ideal - except for the very high risk of developing a close connection with the cat and not the girl......Pensive

  • in reply to JamesB

    I guess the men feared to much competition from the cat.

  • in reply to Iain

    It works both ways men want to know the same stuff too.

    It's good that you can use not being a foreigner to cut through all the BS.

    I agree it's about the person, or should be, to me someone should add something to my life, not take stuff away or constrain it. I think lots of people in later life are afraid they're going to be used as a meal ticket and pension pot for an unscrupulous other. Whilst none of us want to lose any financial security we've gained over the years, we seem to forget that we're looking for a person a human being to share our lives with. For some people I think they'd be better off with an android or escort to hang off thier arm that they can say goodbye to at the end of an evening or stick in a cupboard.

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  • in reply to Iain

    It works both ways men want to know the same stuff too.

    It's good that you can use not being a foreigner to cut through all the BS.

    I agree it's about the person, or should be, to me someone should add something to my life, not take stuff away or constrain it. I think lots of people in later life are afraid they're going to be used as a meal ticket and pension pot for an unscrupulous other. Whilst none of us want to lose any financial security we've gained over the years, we seem to forget that we're looking for a person a human being to share our lives with. For some people I think they'd be better off with an android or escort to hang off thier arm that they can say goodbye to at the end of an evening or stick in a cupboard.

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