Creating groups on WhatsApp

Hello. I received a message from my friend from Switzerland, asking me if I can stop creating the groups on WhatsApp. The thing is that I occasionally create and leave group on WhatsApp with my friend to check if he actually blocked me. I am doing this many times due to my anxiety.

What would be the best response to give him? What would be the best approach? Your response will be appreciated. Thank you and have a nice day! Blush

  • Given his situation and what he said previously I think this is clear - he is going to be very busy with his studies in the run up to end of year exams.

    Whether he has time after the exams will depend on whether he has work to perform in the break before the next term.

    I can imagine in his situation he will not have the badwidth to deal with a distance relationship so it is not so much space he needs as just not having the extra distraction of it.

    I hope he will have the typical 3 week break now and have time to reconnect.

  • Also, should I ask 'Do you need space?'

  • Actually, I was asking about how should I write the apology text. 

    I eventually apologised to him, and he said everything is good, and he had no clue what happened. 

  • What should I tell him? I am thinking of a reply that explains everything

    I recall from a previous thread that he has asked you to back off the relationship for a while - is this still the case?

    If so then I would say that you need something a little more black and white as you dislike uncertainty. Things like:

    - Can we set a date I can message you again,

    - Will he agree to respond within 3 hours (so long as it is before -say- 9pm UK time) even if it is to say when he will get back to you?

    Think what is important to you and make them specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound (SMART)

    I recall he is studying law so it helps to understand how demanding these courses can be on your time. There is a good chance that he may not be able to give you what you want as a result so I, personally, would be looking to move on and find someone else who is able to give you what you need.

    Sorry if it isn't what you want to hear but I think it is what would be in your own best interests.

  • Hi. What should I tell him? I am thinking of a reply that explains everything, but in a calm manner. I don't want to sound like I am angry and defensive.

  • Hi I know exactly how you feel I do that as well. I sometimes have arguments with a friend and sometimes he calls a time out. But I don’t know if he has turned his WiFi or mobile data off or if he has blocked me temporarily. The only way to find out is to create a group add him to it then leave. My friend really doesn’t like that he finds it creepy and has told me to stop. I think it’s best to try to explain as best as you can why you do it and hope that your friend understands. I just don’t understand why social media doesn’t tell you that you have been blocked and I just wish there could be another way around this as well.