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How did you find university?

ComputerGeek1337

I found that I got on far better with other people from another student society, as those on my course seemed to be constantly switching who/what their alliances were. 

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  • University was where it all started to go wrong for me, really. I did well at school - the combination of being able to hyperfocus and living in the most boring place imaginable meant that I was able to concentrate on school work and get into university.

    Once there I struggled with the lack of routine - went completely off the rails in terms of managing time, even telling night from day, and wasn't able to do basic things for myself (apart from drink a lot). I had friends but found myself tending to copy what they did in order to try and fit in. I did, eventually, get a girlfriend but only after she basically decided that's what she was (because I was completely unable to read any signs from her).

    After university most people went off to work in the usual graduate type jobs (law, accountancy etc) but I just went home and signed on the dole. A couple of years after leaving university I was put on a scheme to get long-term unemployed people into work and, strangely, I felt at home with some of the people with SEN and methodone prescriptions. I got lucky in the end by just persevering to the point where people just gave me things to do and then paid me to do them and I tried really hard not to mess it up. Looking back, though, it was pretty chaotic. Would I change things if I'd known age 20 that I was autistic? Maybe, I think I could have done with some help back then.

  • in reply to Goalkeeper

    Much later in life I went back to the local university and did an MBA. I thought I was completely done with classrooms and exams but I had a go and found that I learned quite a lot of interesting things, virtually none of which I have subsequently put to any use!

  • in reply to Goalkeeper

    I only joined one society at uni and rarely went to the union bar, but still found lots of friends and enjoyed myself.

    I seem to be the only person I know on here or in fleshyland who enjoyed uni, maybe it was because I went to a small uni or because as a mature student I was a bit more self sufficient?

    I do find it sad that I'm the only one who enoyed it, and it makes me feel like an outlier again.

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  • in reply to Goalkeeper

    I only joined one society at uni and rarely went to the union bar, but still found lots of friends and enjoyed myself.

    I seem to be the only person I know on here or in fleshyland who enjoyed uni, maybe it was because I went to a small uni or because as a mature student I was a bit more self sufficient?

    I do find it sad that I'm the only one who enoyed it, and it makes me feel like an outlier again.

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