Firstly, Hi everyone. I haven't been here in a very long time, nice to see some familiar faces
I made a huge mistake, and I’m feeling really awful about it. Sometimes I struggle with how things come across, especially with sarcasm and humour.
Last night, I messaged my aunt, who I’ve recently reconnected with after many years. I was just curious about something an asked if she found it easy to get pregnant, she was totally fine with the question and was honest and said that she was lucky and had no problems. This morning she asked why I wanted to know, and I stupidly said, "coz I’m pregnant"—which was a joke, a sarcastic remark, I didn’t expect her to take it seriously, we talk very openly and she knows I'm not sexually active and I made an assumption that she would understand it was sarcasm and I shouldn't have assumed that. She believed me, I apologised straight away, explaining that I was being sarcastic and I didn't expect her to believe me and I wasn’t actually pregnant and it was just one of those totally random questions fuelled by curiosity
She read the message and ignored it so I sent another message apologising for upsetting her, told her I had no intentions of hurting her feelings, although I know I have and I feel awful. She's also read that and ignored it. I think I'm going to give her some space for a bit. Just messaging on here because I'm hoping maybe someone will get it. I feel like I really messed up. I didn’t mean to upset her, and I know it probably sounded strange to her.
Has anyone had a similar experience? How do I explain this in a way that makes sense? I just want to fix this, but I don’t want to make it worse by over-explaining or saying the wrong thing. Any advice would be really appreciated.
Alisha xx
