Would you ban Christmas

if you could?

A deliberately controversial title Blush

How many people welcome Christmas with open arms, I wonder?

It's purportedly a Christian festival based upon a pagan one.

However, in the UK today (a secular society) and a lot of the West, the God being worshipped appears to be money.

When I was a child we were working class.

In those days (60s/70s) goods were far more expensive as the mass manufacturing we see today of cheap imported goods didn't happen.

Borrowing money from banks etc was far more difficult than it is today.

We didn't have much and didn't get much for Christmas.

Also, my mother became cyclically depressed every Christmas and because of all the arguments and misery during my childhood Christmases, I get depressed too.

There are other causes of the depression - bereavement, most of my life spent in deep anxiety about how I was going to pay for presents and spending time in mass gatherings I hated.

I went shopping today and the shops are mad, completely mad with people rushing around buying stuff that the recipients may not even want.

This is what Mind says:

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/christmas-and-mental-health/christmas-and-mental-health/

What do you think?

Does it cause more misery than happiness?

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  • To make it enjoyable you have to do what makes you happy, which is not necessarily what is "expected" .

    Since we got our first flat, my partner & I have always had one rule for Christmas - no visitors on Christmas day. It's always been a day for peace and enjoying good food, TV movies, etc. with nothing else to worry about. 

    I hate crowds and Christmas music, so I avoid the shops during December. We don't give anyone presents now - we have an allocated budget to each choose something we want and then order it online. No worrying about what to get someone and no disappointment that you didn't get what you wanted.

    I don't like the dark nights, but I know that by Christmas we are past the shortest day, so it will be gradually starting to get lighter again afterwards. I think people like to have something to look forward to in the dark days, and although I respect other people's faiths and their religious festivals of Christmas, Hanukka, Diwali, etc, I prefer to celebrate it as the original winter solstice.

  • To make it enjoyable you have to do what makes you happy, which is not necessarily what is "expected" .

    It took me many years to get even an approximation of this.

    The expectations of others are one of the main things I've always found oppressive.

    I'm very glad that you have organised your Christmas so well.

    I prefer to celebrate it as the original winter solstice.

    I have a leaning towards these ancient celebrations/festivals too.

    I've been to a burning man (wicker!) ceremony at Beltain.

    Wonderful experience.

  • You're not alone Debbie, It took me many years to shake off the expectations of others. Although we've always had the no visitors on Christmas day rule, when we were younger we did the seeing family/friends over the holiday period, buying a load of cards & presents, going to New Year's eve parties, etc. I much prefer how we do things now.

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  • You're not alone Debbie, It took me many years to shake off the expectations of others. Although we've always had the no visitors on Christmas day rule, when we were younger we did the seeing family/friends over the holiday period, buying a load of cards & presents, going to New Year's eve parties, etc. I much prefer how we do things now.

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